BM's "History Lesson based Summer Vacation" for SD8 and SS5 - sorry a little long... but please read and help me out here!?!?!?!
2 weeks ago, BM left for the east coast with SD8 and SS5 (we live in CA) to go pick up her BF and take the skids on a 'history-filled family vacay.' DH has been THRILLED about this vacay for the skids, because BM is taking them to 'teach them all about the history of this great nation, and how their father (DH) was directly involved in creating that history.' Her plans included taking them to see the Iwo Jima Memorial, the Marine Corps War Memorial, the Arlington Cemetery, etc., and while its great that they get the opportunity to go and see this stuff, in reality, they are 8 and 5 and have NO FREAKIN CLUE, nor could they care any less, what it all represents and means to people like DH. I'm really not sure why BM has put soooo much emphasis on this and tried to build it up so much to the skids, because at the end of the day, all they know and/or care about is they get to go to DisneyWorld!! They really don't care about the 'war' stuff.. DUH!!! So - last Wednesday, the texts/pictures start flooding DH's phone. Several pics of BM and skids posing in front of all the different monuments/memorials with captions like:
"wish you were here :("
"so proud of what WE went thru"
"Proud marine corps wife" (WTF, bitch? You mean EX-wife!?!?!?!)
"Forever grateful for what you did for US!!"
Seriously, my blood is boiling, rehashing this all over again in my mind Who in THE FUCK does this bitch think she is all of a sudden? WOW! DH is showing me all the pics as they come in, I'm trying really hard not to:
2) knock him the fuck out
3) lose my shit and go bananas!!
Mind you, we are on the west coast in Cali, she is on the east coast in DC, so there's 3 hours difference... at midnight, our time, they are still texting! I'm trying real hard to keep my composure and address my uncomfortable feelings with this situation in a tactful, mature manner. I decide to wait until I calm down to address my feelings, but in the meantime I fall asleep. Coincidentally, DH’s phone goes on the fritz that night and in the wee hours of the morning, wakes me up going off. In all honesty people, I trust DH and I have no reason to go thru his personal things, including his phone and text messages. I just don’t do it!! That said, when his phone woke me up that night ringing and making all kinds of racket, all I could do was put it on vibrate and go back to sleep; however, in order to do so, I had to unlock his home screen and then turn the volume down. When I unlocked the home screen, up popped his text conversation with BM…all I saw was bits and pieces, but it was enough…enough inappropriateness to make me very, very angry!! She said something along the lines of “NO ONE will EVER understand what we went thru! As painful as those memories are, I treasure them.” She also said, “I found replicas of your combat ribbon and bought one each for the kids… I feel like I earned that thing right along side u, ya know!” That was it… that last text had come in @ 1:43 AM our time… so what, she’s lying in bed next to her BF @ 4:30 am on the east coast, walking down memory lane with my husband…??? While I don’t doubt that they experienced some awful things during that time in their life, that shit is in the past and it needs to stay there! I, too, have had some horrible experiences in my lifetime, with my ex-husband… but I don’t find it appropriate to discuss with him… especially in the middle of the night! FUCK THAT!!! Wow – it got ugly… we had it out! And as always, HE felt wronged because I got upset with him… so he had to have his turn and get mad at me… about what, I don’t even know… but we finally got over it and moved on. I did NOT hold back… I let him have it and made damn sure that he understood this will NOT happen EVER again… and if he doesn’t tell her how inappropriate and disrespectful their little history lesson was, I WILL!!! I’m not dismissing what they felt/experienced/lived… but it’s over, done, and needs to remain in the past so we can all move on. I can guarantee you, if the tables were turned and it were me having such a conversation with my ex, someone’s head would ROLL and DH would lose it and kill someone (He’s soooo super-jealous… it’s sickening, really!)
So Monday evening we went to my mom’s house for dinner and as we’re sitting at the dinner table, DH’s phone is blowing up!! Guess who it was? Yep, it was BM… apparently she had taken the skids deep sea fishing and was giving DH a play-by-play via text/picture… WTF???????????? Why does he need to know all about the rest of their vacation, now that the ‘history lesson’ is over? And again with the captions on her pics:
“SD’s FIRST fish!! She’s a natural, just like you!”
“SS named SD’s fish… he is sooo funny!”
“SD’s really wishing daddy was here to help reel this one in! It’s a BIG ONE!!”
“Losing count… they are practically jumping in the boat with us.. sooo cool… you would love this! ”
Am I wrong to be FUCKING IRRITATED WITH THIS BITCH??? AND HIM… who the hell does he think he is just going along with it… encouraging her to continue sending pics/texts..?? When we go on vacay, we do NOT report to her blow-by-blow how shit goes down… OMG – the more I think about all this, the angrier I get. Am I out of line? Her time is her time… when the kids get back, they can tell us all about it and show us THEIR pictures… but come on now... why are they doing this to me all of a sudden? I’m hurt, angry, furious, offended… and I have soooo many crazy emotions running thru me right now I can hardly even get a straight thought out. Anyway – is this normal? It has NOT been normal in our family prior to this… in fact, DH would be downright offended if she even asked to know what was going on during our time with skids. I’m just a little beside myself with this… I’m PISSED!!!!