Skid journaling her visitation
DH and I revisited this in our discussion last night. Here’s that blog entry for reference:
This has a lot to do with me not wanting to engage much with skid (again) this summer. DH stated it hasn’t happened yet, so why live in fear that it will. He also said that skid *can* journal if she wants, too, because journaling is okay and normal and common. I don’t disagree with that statement.
I keep a password protected journal on my phone. I write lots of different things in it, and not that often. One of those things is stuff DH has said to me in regards to skid, BM, visitation, whatever, because I would often share these things with my therapist. I’ve never outright told DH this, but he has guessed this much and refers to my journal keeping at “keeping notes on people who have wronged me,” as if that’s some sort of dig. I’ve backed off on journaling, and have made a conscious effort to just address matters or concerns as they happen, like I stated in last night’s blog post.
So, from what I’m hearing out of DH, it’s totally okay for skid to journal her interactions with DH she views as negative (and hand it off to him in a Bye Felicia fashion as she leaves to go back home), but it’s totally not okay for me to keep a journal that he has no proof or knowledge of the context.