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O/T: My BM sucks

Mom2TwinsnTeens's picture

My BM(sistermom) gave birth to me at 15 after supposedly not knowing she was pregnant. I was adopted by her mom(gramama). I didn't know this until 1.5 yrs ago.

There's a whole bunch of drama surrounding us with me living with sistermom for a few years, then me moving out and dating then marrying my DH(she had a mad crush on him, he's 18 yrs older than me, she's married). Anyway, after 2 yrs of not speaking to her, I reached out and we reconnected and then all of a sudden she needed a place to put her 3 horses. I have 30 acres and my own horse so I let her come. Big mistake, she didn't want to pay a fair boarding price, 3 horses turned into 6, she complained about everything, it was a mess.

While DH and I were out of town she came and got her horses. No big deal, didn't care. Well now she posted a pic of one of her horses that is deadly thin on FB and accusing me of starving it. It wasn't my job to feed him, it was hers! She paid 200/mnth for 6 horses to have a place to stay, not for me to take care of. I paid 250/mnth for 1 horse at her barn, and had to pay to feed it plus help take care of all the other horses.

I'm so upset, the horse does look terrible, but its not my fault! She wastes her money on booze and gas for her huge truck to go trailride everywhere and she doesn't have a job, its not my fault she can't afford to feed him. Its NYE and I'm too upset to celebrate with my family. I can't vent to DH much cause he already hates her and I don't want him to start shit with her.

I know she's mentally ill, but its still upsetting. DHs liver cancer came back, I dunno if we have months or years left. Now she's saying she has liver cancer too and is mad at me because she doesn't have insurance and my DH does, wtf?

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Ommy's picture

If she was talking about ur bisness you could sue her. Freedom of speach doesnt apply when someone bashes a business like that. I work at a law firm, we have a client going through something simmilar

Mom2TwinsnTeens's picture

No, wasn't a business, I just had plenty of room and was trying to give her horses a place to stay so she didn't have to sell them. But she's got it so that the pics are posted on my wall so my friends can see it too. I could easily untag myself, but I don't even want to acknowledge it. I know she's just drunk right now and I know how she gets.

All her little friends are saying how awful it is bla bla bla but I don't know them so they can kiss my ass. But a mutual friend of ours said something about how my kids need to be checked on too. Wtf? That made me mad

Most Evil's picture

She sounds very immature and I would try to let go of the fact she is your BM (well you know what I mean). It sounds like she has substance abuse issues and that brings out the worst in everyone.

Block her on facebook and if you are forced to talk about her with anyone, tell them she is a drug addict/alcoholic whichever she is, and that explains everything right there. I say this as the daughter of an alcoholic too. Sad

Hugs and sorry you are going thru this!!

Totalybogus's picture

I can understand your anger at her post, bit I have to ask you as a compassionate human being, didn't you notice that horse was being neglected and starving to death while you were tending to your own animals? I realize caring for them was not your responsibility but as a consciencious person don't you think it's your responsibility to report that negligence so SOMEONE would care for the poor animal?

Mom2TwinsnTeens's picture

With his winter coat it was hard to see how thin he was, and he was in the back pasture since it was the only one that had grass. She's moved her horses so hopefully I won't have to come into contact with her any longer, I'm done. I tried to have a good relationship with her and my little sister but I have my own family to worry about.

I guess she woke up this morning and realized what shed done cause she took down the pics and said on FB that she was an ass. Still no apology to me but I won't hold my breath.

Thanks for your kind words everybody. Its hard to cut contact with family, but I know its what's best.