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Mom2TwinsnTeens's picture

To start: SD12 and SS17 are not DHs biokids, but we're raising them in addition to SD13 because BM pretty much decided last year that she didnt want to be a mom, fine, no big deal, its been fine. Last year, she claimed all 3 kids on her taxes. Kinda pissed me off, since we had SS17 since March, but only the girls since June. I let it slide, since it only would have given me an extra $150.

We just got a voicemail from her saying that she ran a dryrun of her taxes, and would have to pay taxes if she didnt claim the kids. Quote: "You can claim YOUR kids (meaning my biotwins and SD13) and I'll claim SD12 and SS17". This woman has called the kids once in 4 months, on Xmas...didnt ask how they were, or if they could call her back, nothing. Just concerned about money.

Not. My. Problem. I raised these kids all year, damn if I'm letting her take financial credit for them. She shoulda kept her damn mouth shut, I was gonna wait til I got my w-2s in to file, but I can do it offa paystubs so I'm filing now, giving her no chance. Looking forward to my fat check from the IRS, thanks BM!

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Totalybogus's picture

Be careful with that. If he's not he dad of those kids and you both file for them, there will probably be an audit and you guys will lose, unless of course it's in a custody agreement

Mom2TwinsnTeens's picture

The kids have been living with us all year, even without them being biologically related, I supported them, I claim them. She'll go to jail, shes not even in the same state as them. She wants to get nasty, theyve been legally abandoned and I can get custody of em

Totalybogus's picture

Then you need to do that. The IRS doesn't cate who raises them unless there is legal custody. Don't do something you may regret out of anger. Definitely talk to a lawyer before you go off half cocked

Gabriels Mom's picture

We have the same problem the custody agreement is 50/50 but we have SS10 80% of the time AND we pay for everything with absolutely NO financial help from BM. I've claimed him the last 2 years and I intend to claim him this year too and if she ends up claiming him first I will file a paper return with my "proof" and they will send me a check and she can owe an IRS debt. Screw her since DH hasn't been working who does she think pays for everything her son needs? The magical child care faery? Also, the IRS doesn't particularly care who has custody they want to know where the kids have been. If you can prove it that's all they care about.

ms.blessed.n.distressed's picture

Totalbogas- I'm sorry but you are wrong. I know this from MANY years of experience. It states that you must have supported the minor for more than 6 months out of the year. That's all. It doesn't matter who has legal custody of the child. If you can prove someone else's kid was being supported by you for more than 6 months in a year, that is all that matters. If BM does file, you will need receipts, school records, all documentation that these children have been in your care. You provide the IRS with that when they ask and you will be fine. I have claimed my little brothers on my taxes for 4 years even tho I have zero legal rights to them. BD claimed them as well. I provided proof every year and not once has the IRS said ANYTHING about me not being their legal guardian. I would start gathering documentation just to be prepared.

Mom2TwinsnTeens's picture

ms.blessed, what did the IRS do to the BM when she also claimed them? I have no worries, the kids are enrolled in school up here, I handle their medical stuff. It would just be an added bonus if she got into legal trouble }:)

ms.blessed.n.distressed's picture

She will have to pay it all back. Bank account wiped out, wages garnished. No jail time tho. I wish. Lol.

Mom2TwinsnTeens's picture

Thanks ripley Smile we're not planning on saying anything, just gonna file the taxes at midnight tonight. I'm pretty sure she files her electronically too, so she'll just get the error that the kids have already been claimed that I got last year. I can't wait to see how she's gonna react, I can't see her wanting the kids back and she's kinda afraid of DH. She might try to pop off at me, but she'll get an earful. Kinda sad I have to spend NYE doin taxes though