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Court Tomorrow.. Who knows WTH Bm will get away with this time!

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Submitted by MollyBee on Sun, 10/04/2009 - 7:23pm

My frustration with the court system has grown to an entire different level. I have no where else to vent, so sorry in advance!!
BM filed for a GAL back in July, she had her attorney file her request along with a memorandum, signed by BM. In the beginning of August, the judge decided a GAL was mandatory in the case, and asked for a $750 deposit. FH paid his, BM did not. 3 weeks after the deposit was due, BM was found in contempt for not paying, and scheduled for a contempt hearing the following week. BM requested a continuance, and was given a hearing 2 weeks later. The date of the new hearing is the day BM is supposed to report to jail for 20 days.
FH and I met with his attorney to discuss BM's continuance, and to tell him BM was moving with SD8. According to the divorce papers, BM has to file an intent to relocate form with the court, allowing the court or FH time to contest the move. BM just moved. She filed no papers. We aren't even exactly sure where they are living. While talking with the attorney I asked, "what happens when BM gets another continuance because she is going to jail?" Attorney said, it won't happen. There is no way the judge will give her additional time again. I told him, wanna bet? BM gets away with everything.
Saturday I checked my mail. BM got another continuance due to her going to jail. Not sure why they didn't just set up camera court. Anyways, now BM gets until November 5th to pay her part of the deposit. I can't wait to tell the lawyer I TOLD YOU SO!!
FH has court in the afternoon tomorrow. His attorney filed a request that we get SD8 when her mom gets locked up Thursday. BUT... BM moved her out of the district now and switched her school, so we aren't even sure if we will get her while BM is in jail. (BM moved in with her mother and stepfather, SD's grandparents) He also filed a request that BM doesn't move until the case is over, but, she already moved. Too little, too late it seems.
Soo.. no idea what will happen tomorrow. The stress is really becoming overwhelming. We havn't seen SD in 3 weeks, it was our weekend to have her but BM said SD wanted to help move, so we didn't get her.
COURT CASES SUCK SO BAD. BM is using it to destroy our relationship with SD!!

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Submitted by PnutButta on Sun, 10/04/2009 - 7:31pm

Hearing that she got another continuance...well, I feel frustrated for you. What is the court thinking? It's probably really hard to be positive when that kind of crap is going on. Isn't there a way to file some form of complaint or something with the court? Your attorney must have some ideas for what you can do, your DH is not being treated fairly.

We need some serious family court reform in this country.

"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: It goes on." ~Robert Frost

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Submitted by alwaysme on Sun, 10/04/2009 - 7:47pm

I have no faith whatsoever in the court system either, they just dont help the father, it is plain and simple. i have been through it too. BM just took the kids and rang CS and said i have them 100% so he has to pay me and he is not getting the kids back. The court system couldnt friggin care less unless it is the father who was the one who did it. Then they would be straight onto it, he would be in jail by now. Sorry i cant help but i really feel your frustration

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Sun, 10/04/2009 - 8:23pm

I would talk with your attorney.

I don't know if you can request a different judge, but it might be worth looking into. Perhaps getting a new judge would help you get a more fair outcome in court.

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Submitted by Kb3Hooah on Thu, 05/20/2010 - 7:16pm

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Submitted by squeegie_becken... on Mon, 10/05/2009 - 10:21am

I feel for you!!! You can read my blogs to hear my story, but some of it is really similar to yours. BM moved 45 minutes from us & registered SD9 at the school there. (They have had 50/50 custody for about 7 years.) BM did this knowing that there was no way we could drive SD9 to & from school there. It took months to get a court date, which was only a status hearing! Our next (real) court date is in late November! Meanwhile, SD9 has been attending school there & by this time, will have been for 3 months. Do you honestly think the judge is going to pull SD9 out of school at that point? BM knew this would happen.

So until we go to court, we have no choice but to only have SD9 every other weekend. There is no way we can drive her to school there & BM refuses to even meet us half-way for drop-offs & pick-ups. We have to do all the driving if we want to see SD9. Can someone explain to me how this is allowed?!

What BM is doing is driving a wedge between SD9 & us. Of course our relationship with her is going to be affected by this. I'm sure BM badmouths us every chance she gets, filling the kid's head with lies. And it really all boils down to my husband moving on with his life. He put his foot down to stop BM from using him as a baby-sitter. He got remarried. We bought a house. We're having a baby. All of this makes BM jealous, despite the fact that it was BM who essentially ended the marriage. BM had been cheating on him. BM immediately moved in with someone after moving out of their home. BM has had countless boyfriends, including several live-ins, since they separated. So what exactly is her problem?! I just don't get it. Move on already!

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Submitted by MollyBee on Mon, 10/05/2009 - 12:46pm

I am starting to feel a panic attack coming on, court is in 2 hours!! I just went to SD8's school, she has not been withdrawn from the school, but she is not in class and BM went in last week to tell them she was moving. This is so scary, I feel terrible for FH because he has no idea where his daughter is even sleeping at night.

I wish the judge would just say : Ok, this girl's mom has been to jail twice already this year, and still has more unserved jail time that she is running from. The father will be residential parent from now on.

I know it won't happen. But a girl can dream!

Oh, one more thing. I drove past BM's house this morning. Looks like HARDLY any moving was done. Actually, it appears as though nothing has been moved whatsoever. SD's bike is even still on the porch. How nice of BM to not let us have SD for our weekend visit~ and then not even do what she claimed to be doing. Ughh.