SD17 waking us up upset about “mommy”
So I am trying really hard to enjoy moments with DH. I haven't 100% decided our marriage is over. I am working on an exit plan and I have started to talk to a lawyer just to see what's what and I am looking to find an affordable close to home therapist for me. But in the meantime I am still trying to work on our marriage. This weekend we did not have SD and we actually had a really nice weekend until 11:15 PM last night.
I was actually so excited to go to bed last night because he was going to bed with me at the same time which rarely happens (I usually go to bed before him) and I had taken a cold bath which helps me get into a nice deep slumber when he gets a text at 11:15 from SD. Why? Because she was all upset that she had just gotten home and mommy wasn't there. She is two months shy of turning 18! Do you think DH said to SD something like "it's fine. I'm sure she will be home soon. Just text me when she does get home". Nope!!! DH decides to send his daughter all these texts probably saying how awful the mother is and how she should be home blah blah blah and he ends up texting the ex telling her to get home.
I'm just so over how he loves it when SD turns to him upset about BM. BM doesn't go out that often where she's not home before SD gets home. it's a holiday weekend and she probably had a party that she was at. Also SD sleeps there 20 nights a month versus 8 nights here. What??? Do SD and DH think BM has to live her life 24/7 around when SD is there???
And of course what really pissed me off is that he kept this going for over half an hour but didn't get out of the bed and go to another room.I laid there awake because of the light from the phone and he looks over at me after about 20 minutes and says " so am I bothering you? You can just put your face mask on.0 ( I don't sleep with a sleep mask on I put it on for about an hour in the morning while he gets up before me and is getting ready so I'm not bothered by him turning lights on ) And meanwhile the entire time this was happening he didn't say a word to me so I had no idea what was happening. It wasn't until this morning he decided to tell me what it was all about. I'm just so tired of him not opening up to me at the appropriate time. All I needed from him last night was "I'm sorry baby SD was upset that the ex wasn't home"