How yesterday (Father's Day) went for me...
So as I mentioned in my other blog SD17 went out to dinner with us and DH's family Saturday night. But of course SHE decided she would be seeig DH yesterday too. (Of course she didnt make plans ahead of time and tell Dh what she was thinking though becasue that would require SD and DH to actually communicate which they never can do.)
So what happened? The day became a cluster fuck and ended with DH yelling at me! I am so over him and his daughter! I hate this limbo period where I have one foot out the door but financially cant leave. I try to be a good person, a loving wife, nice to SD but I just keep getting my heart broken.
Becuase DH assumed SD would not be coming over here yesterday since he was seeing her Saturday night we had made plans for the day (Go grab a nice lunch, do a little shopping at the mall, then come home for a nice steak dinner) Well DH could have talked to SD before she left to go home Saturday night when he found out she was planning on seeing him on Sunday too and just make plans by say "So when were you planning on coming over?" or "How about we go for lunch?'. I told him I didnt care what they did but that I would like him to figure it out so I could plan MY day.
Well he waits until Sunday morning to text her and suggest they meet for lunch . Of course she was asleep until noon. By the time she responed to him she had already made plans to spend the day with her boyfriend and his family. Well DH got butt hurt and was in a mood. So then I accepted the fact that she would be here for dinner and told him we just needed to get a steak for her too. I was going with the flow. Trying to do whatever he wanted to make him happy. But nothing I do is good enough! He decided to jump all over me after she had left last night over moving a chair (long story) I knew he was using it as an excuse to go off becuase yet again he was upset about BM and SD! BM becuase of her blowing off SD all weekend. And I am sure he was upset that SD basically fit him in after she made her boyfriend and his family the center of her day.
I tried to talk to him this morning calmly about why he went off on me last night and I got a lecture about how I have a problem every time his daughter comes over. How I hate to see her here more than her scheduled days. How I need to figure out if I can live with him and his daughter and on and on. The reality is I know he thinks (or maybe he knows for a fact) that SD will be wantng to live here fulltime when she turns 18 in 3 months and he knows that will be the end of us. What he doesn't realize is that the end of us has already started....
(Oh and thoughtful SD got him a coffee mug that said "Best dad ever" and a gift card to Lowes. (She gives him a Lowes gift card for every bday and Xmas! And we have very nice handmade mugs we love that we got on 2 trips One set from Maine and one from Asheville that we use every day) And she didnt even bother to wrap the gifts becuase she said all she had at her house were pink bags! WTF? Stop at any store and buy a couple gift bags. Yeah take things out on me becuase you have a lazy unthoughtful daughter! The only reason she even wanted to come last night was becuase she couldn't be at BMs house becuase they were showing it (its for sale) and BM was off with her boyfriend!). So lucky me!!! I end up having to spend three weekends in a row with SD while her mother gets 3 weekends to enjoy herself with her boyfriend!