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MissElphaba's picture

Finally able to update about the last week or so... The weekend of the 17th was not fun. SO kept wanting to brush our huge argument under the rug and take minihag out for fun activities on Saturday. I tried to make the best of the situation because of DS1 and it being our last family weekend. I begged SO to do something with the two of us but he never followed through. He made it all about her.

Monday was the c section day - two emergent women came in while they were prepping me so they bumped me back two hours... During that time the baby's heart rate kept falling so they put me on oxygen. Come to find out the cord wrapped around his neck so thankfully - they got him out without any complications for him. Me, on the other hand, I guess with the two emergent women coming in the anesthesiologist forgot that I have a bad reaction to anesthesia and narcotics. I could tell as soon as he was finished playing with my spine, but it was too late. They tried a lot of counteracting meds but they didn't work. I didn't get to hold my baby for the 12 hours afterward because I was vomiting profusely then passed out.

SO went to work the next day, so I was largely alone with my infant post op for two days. Went home and spent a lot of time at my moms so she could help me. I had a lot of pain and bleeding, she was awesome. SO worked Saturday and played his sport on Sunday. I've been on my own a lot... Guess I should be getting used to it.

Celebrating my dad's birthday this weekend, and it's visitation again. I'm just exhausted and disappointed. I can't even enjoy my baby the way I want to. SO is making me sick to my stomach, and I'm thinking of moving to the sofa now that my incision is mostly healed.

Our son is beautiful...just like his older brother. I'm blessed with these boys...that's where my focus needs to be.

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Willow2010's picture

Congrats!

Was your SO like this when you had your other son? I don't think I would have any more kids with him.

MissElphaba's picture

Yes, but his daughter wasn't around as much as she is now, and I was able to completely devote my time to baby. Now I have two and I can't do it alone without constantly feeling like I'm ignoring one. SO is never around, he isn't good with infants and ds1 needs love and affection...SO thinks boys should be boys and all that...

misSTEP's picture

I think you should take your boys and stay at your mother's house. Especially for visitation weekend.

NoWireCoatHangarsEVER's picture

Hugs and Congratulations on your beautiful baby!!!!!!!!!!!!! I know aholes and your hubby is one of them. You and I are now kindred spirits. We have babies with Aholes. I would deinitely take your boys to your mothers house for visitation weekend. Maybe longer!

I'm sorry about your birth experience. That happened to me on my first baby. They gave me stadol. Staydol? Not sure what its caused but I never felt so sick and nauseaous.

No saint's picture

Congratulations on the new baby and all the best.
I'm really sorry you are going through that; thank God for your mom!
Sorry to say, but you SO is one of the biggest asses I've ever seen: he was a true SOB, especially when you were having a child that is also HIS! I believe that eventually you'll be better off alone but think you should take your time to realize what you want; know, with a newborn, is not the time.

Maxwell09's picture

Congratulations on your new little bundle!! And like the others I'm sorry to hear your situation isn't getting any better at home. My only advice is don't be afraid to ask for help even if you have to ask your jerk of a husband. Postpartum depression is very real so do what you can and get whatever help you need when you can't do something!

MelissaAllbright27's picture

Congrats on your bundle of joy!
I'm sorry about the situation you have with your SO, I've read your other posts. I hope it gets sorted soon so you can enjoy your baby like you deserve to!

Jsmom's picture

Congrats on the baby...I would go stay at your moms...He is showing you who he is, now show him....