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I guess food is an issue lately with DH's

missangie1978's picture

A client of mine sent us some filet mignon steaks, DH was at home when the arrived, he started talking about making them for dinner for him and SS. I told him that I was saving the stakes for us to have a specil romantic dinner this weekend just DH and me.

DH was upset that I was leaving SS out. I explained to him that the steaks were expensive and with as much as SS eats there would not be enough for everyone. I also explained to him that I wanted us to have a romantic dinner together but he still got upset that I was leaving SS out.

I was starting to get upset myself, isn't it enough that we've got SS full-time and BM pays nothing and all DH pays right now is SS's daycare and his own bills. I pay for EVERYTHING else and damn I worked hard for my client and those steaks are a thank you to me.

I think I'll be eating steak by myself every night this week

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Dreamer's picture

Enjoy your steak! You deserve it!

Don't fear the thorns among the Roses, but be greatful for the Roses among the thorns

Nymh's picture

I don't think a kid appreciates the special-ness of these types of things. It stinks that DH doesn't get that. I say you indulge in them all by yourself!

*~So sayeth Nymh~*

sixxnguns's picture

enjoy those steaks...your man needs to wake up and realize the world doesn't revolve around his kid!

Angel's picture

like he is taking you for granted. If you are paying for everything he expects everything. The steaks are not the issue here. The resentment you feel is that he is taking advantage of you. Sounds like you have to stand up to him about the real issue instead of the steak. He is counting on your avoiding the topic so that he can remain in charge and have his steaks too.

unknown's picture

into yet another opportunity to feel sorry for his kid. this is ridiculous. i suspect he feels a certain amount of guilt and will be repaying an imaginary 'debt' to his son for the restof his life. this doesn't mean you have to as well. cook your steaks and eat them in front of everyone with a smile.

Just trying to be a Stepmom without getting Stepped On.

frustratedinMA's picture

I cant believe that he wanted him and his son to eat the steak that you worked hard for.. and that he wasnt thinking YOU should have the steak that was sent to YOU!

What the heck is wrong w/him???

I would point out that you dont expect ss to share HIS gifts w/you, so why should you be expected to share YOUR gift w/him????

happysomeday's picture

totally just eat it by yourself

it's funny, when I was growing up the only meat we had was hamburger or chicken.

Only the grown-ups ever got steak

are you saying that your H wanted to make them for him and SS only? and eat them without you?

happysomeday's picture

totally just eat it by yourself

it's funny, when I was growing up the only meat we had was hamburger or chicken.

Only the grown-ups ever got steak

are you saying that your H wanted to make them for him and SS only? and eat them without you?

happysomeday's picture

totally just eat it by yourself

it's funny, when I was growing up the only meat we had was hamburger or chicken.

Only the grown-ups ever got steak

are you saying that your H wanted to make them for him and SS only? and eat them without you?

missangie1978's picture

how SS glups down food so usually I end up getting little or have to make myself something else. Well this time I don't think so.

I'm having steak tonight and DH & SS are on their own

Georgie Girl's picture

and enjoy one now all by myself. I can't believe that he felt that way. GEEZ. Especially since you had mentioned saving them for a romantic evening together. Sounds like he is trying to over compensate with ss because of guilt.

unknown's picture

what would happen if you said to your SS in front of DH "SKID, please sit on the couch instead of this chair. i paid alot of money for this chair and i dream all day about when i can relax in it. thank you." what would happen? dirty looks probably? i'm sure you'd be thought of as being grumpy, but if you're anything like me, your facial expressions and tone would give your mood anyway regardless so you may as well say what's on your mind and take away any doubt... ha ha!

Just trying to be a Stepmom without getting Stepped On.