The man I am seeing now I have known for about 4 years 2 dating 2 flirty coworkers. When I first met him I knew he had already had two children, one a girl and one a boy who later passed away when he was 5 months old. I did not know that once I got into a relationship with this man that he would always put his first born above everybody else, including my child that he chose to be there for since before she was born. No he is not her father but the biological father does not want anything to do with her except money so that makes this man her father since he is the only father she has grown up knowing. When I say he puts his first born before everything I mean everything. When he wakes up instead of helping change our 2 year old diapers he goes out and makes sure that the 5 year old is clean, has tv, and food. While he leaves me to tend to the two year old. He treats the 5 year old like she is 2. He puts her shoes on for her , cleans her room, buttons her pants, and anything that I have to say about her he blows up on me about. He even asks me what is wrong, then when I am being truthful he blows up on me. I just wonder if he will ever be able to treat her the age she is instead of treating her like a baby. He does not understand that he is so afraid of losing her that he might lose our second and third children but also me in the process of all this stuff. How am I supposed to compromise with someone that thinks his child does no wrong, or that treats her like such a baby that he can never give it up? How am I supposed to help discipline when he goes against everything I say that she needs to be disciplined for?