The man I am seeing now I have known for about 4 years 2 dating 2 flirty coworkers. When I first met him I knew he had already had two children, one a girl and one a boy who later passed away when he was 5 months old. I did not know that once I got into a relationship with this man that he would always put his first born above everybody else, including my child that he chose to be there for since before she was born.