Seems like FSD16.5 is literally turning into her mother (BM) right before my eyes. It's like a vicious cycle - it will keep repeating itself if no one stops it. BM is an attention-seeking, uneducated, leeching, narcissistic, dependent lives-off-CS woman - basically sleeps with everything and anything (she has NO standards), etc... As FSD gets older, I see her becoming JUST.LIKE.BM. I'm worried about FSD and would like to do something to stop this madness before it gets worse.

So unfortunately, I've just found out from a reliable source that FSD16.5 is, in fact, sexually active. I knew this day would come. Fact: BM was sexually active at a young age (probably wasn't reigned-in by her parents, either) and got pregnant at 16 and gave birth at 17 (not my FDH's child, it was from another "baby daddy"). I always prayed that my FDH's good influence as a good father figure in FSD's life would help change her course that she is destined for due to BM. BM actually ENCOURAGES FSD to dress slutty, cleavage-showing clothes, dyes her hair multiple colors constantly, encourages FSD to wear dark, slutty makeup (and lots of it). BM has allowed this for years now. BM has also allowed FSD to be online surfing the web since she was about 11 years old - Facebook, MySpace, etc... you name it, she's on it. BM herself is addicted to role-playing on the internet, using various dating websites, having 8-10 different screennames, frequenting role-playing websites, vampires, etc... She's really a pathetic woman.

Example of how BM is: When FSD was about 14 years old, I found out that she was secretly dating a 18-19 year old guy. Also found out that BM not only KNEW about this and allowed this, but encouraged this - AND encouraged FSD to keep it a secret from my FDH. BM told her "If your Dad finds out that I'm letting him pick you up in his car & hang out with him, he'll take you & your brother away from me."

I am sick of BM and all of her disgusting ways - she is absolutely NO GOOD MOTHER FIGURE for FSD16.5. I am now afraid that teen pregnancy is not just a possibility, but it is an inevitability.

To make matters worse, I don't think BM has taken FSD to an OB/GYN to get checked or to have her put on birth control either. I can easily check my suspicions with our health insurance company - it has a log of each & every time FSD has been to the dr (of course, FDH agreed to keep fskids on HIS health insurance and BM has NO financial responsibility for THAT either, but that's another blog). I know that taking a daughter to the "woman doctor (OB/GYN) is generally supposed to be a MOM thing, but she hasn't taken her - and I doubt that FDH will want to take her for that reason, also. BM would blow up at him/us if he took FSD to the OB/GYN.

I keep wondering if it's time for me to step in here before FSD gets pregnant. I DO NOT WANT TO DO THIS TO BE CONTROLLING OR TO BE A BITCH TO BM!! Trust me, I WISH I didn't have to worry about this crap. I'm thinking about having a talk with FDH about this and seeing if I can encourage him to talk to BM about taking FSD to the OB/GYN to have her put on birth control. God, this goes against all of my beliefs and how I would raise my OWN daughter. But since BM will be the furthest person on the planet to teach her daughter ABSTINENCE, I think that FSD should at least be protected if she's going to be having sex. The OTHER problem I worry about: FSD contracting a fatal disease (HIV/AIDS) as the result of her promiscuous ways (JUST.LIKE.HER.MOTHER, the promiscuity anyway).

So I need some advice ASAP from all of you on here - whether you're a BM or a SM or both...How would YOU handle this???