Done with recitals
I need help. Next week my house goes up for sale and my daughter 13 and I will be moving in with boyfriend and his autistic son, 12. My daughter wants no part of him or his son and they know it. We’ve taken them both on trips with us to try and get them to bond but to no avail. His son is in karate and dance which he is not good at all. His son isn’t too high on the spectrum btw. He makes eye contact, talks, lovable just lives in a cartoon world. Most conversations are about spongebob which drives my teenager nuts. My bd could be a little more empathetic and try a little bit harder but she has nothing in common with him and gives up after awhile. My daughter wants to be an equestrian more than anything, I can’t find too many kids in her area who love this more than anything like herself. I’ve spent money I don’t have helping her to compete. My boyfriend works 80 to 90 hours a week and has not gone to any of her shows or school events. Also because my daughter and her father don’t want him there. I, on the other hand, have gone to birthday parties and shows for my boyfriends son. His ex wife actually made me take a picture of them at a recital, my boyfriend, their son like they are still a family. It took a lot of willpower not to throw the camera at her head..anyway. My boyfriends son is having a birthday party and recital on the same day. I have my daughter that day and she doesn’t want to go. I said no thank you. It became a huge fight. How could I break his sons heart and leave my daughter alone at home if she doesn’t want to go. My daughter is not use to being alone and I feel like I’m choosing his son over her. I told him I don’t need to go and that he’s never gone to anything of my daughters. Should I still move in? We are actually seeking family counseling next week to help but I feel like he’s being selfish. It can’t just be about him and his kid right?!? I’m trying not to overreact but I don’t even know how are life is going to work out? Also once I move in I’ll be in that situation for awhile due to financials.