Hey all. Just joined up to see what other step parents are going through out there and look for a little bit of peace with the role myself. People certainly don't realize how hard being a step parent can be. I didn't give it any thought until it became my life. Just to sum up, I have two step kids. A girl (7) and a boy (4) and they can be the most bipolar kids I've ever interacted with. Their parents separated a little over 2 years ago and I've been consistantly a part of their life for about a year and a half. I've had nonstop issues with their biological father since I came into the picture (him and his own father assaulted me outside my work, tried breaking into my apartment, slashed my tires and keyed my car on several occasions). He doesn't pay child support, only wants the kids 2 nights a month, and he still has total control over them regarding their relationship with me. I used to have a zero tolerance for exes policy when it came to dating. If an ex was still in the picture, I walked the other way. Being a step parent has been my Everest in dealing with that old policy. I guess the thing that I dont understand the most is that I have done so much for these kids. I've taken them to school, paid for all their supplies, spent quality time with them every day, and more, but theres this wall of disrespect they have for me. They used to be great towards me but lately have been looking for every reason to have a fit or just flat out ignore me. I guess this is the occupational hazard of this, but it still tears at one's heart when your skids choose to idolize their deadbeat father who doesn't even want to see them, and you become their human punching bag regardless of how much you've done for them. Dont mean to vent, but this can be a heartbreaking role to play. Any advice or your own stories would be greatly appreciated.