What’s beyond disengagement
I've been deleting my blogs out of an abundance of caution, although my SO isn't much for technology. And to be honest, the progression of his (and my) relationship with the skids is like so many here, to the letter. Disney Dad buys everything, skids expect more and more but value less and less. Daddy tries putting his foot down and skids freak out and threaten to leave. Dad runs himself ragged, beats himself up emotionally, and tries to rationalize their behaviour. "She's upset at the state of the world and doesn't know how to express it." "She means well but her anxiety overpowers her." And the classic "It's how her mother raised her."
So these days I don't have much to say. It's all playing out before me like has been written here over and over again. I do very little with the skids when I'm here every so often. A bit of cooking because I enjoy it (and bizarrely enough, they love what I cook). A bit of outdoorsy stuff with the younger SD. I still live separately, still working and financially independent. I just stopped really caring, so when I visit, I just...don't care.