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SD16 and (fancy) masks

Merrigan's picture

SD16 hates masks. She has four reusable ones, plus unlimited access to n95 and disposable surgical masks. She hates the idea of masks altogether (thanks to BM) and says she's planning a bonfire for her masks when the pandemic is over.

Until she found out from my BF that I bought reusable masks from Nordstrom.  All of a sudden these masks I bought were super interesting, and she wanted to know what they looked like. I've got a ton of masks and have given my BF some plain ones for the SK's, which they don't wear, but as soon as he mentions I have masks from Nordstrom, SD16 is all interested. Just like last time I was there and showed her a dress I was thinking of buying for myself and when I went to check the size, she said "I'm an extra small, so make sure you get that". 

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shellpell's picture

Why do you put up with this? I wouldn't even give a 16 yr old sd any opportunity to talk about my shit, my life, my shoes as if she has any say or any opinion that matters. i can't even imagine a kid "telling on me" about something I, as a working adult, bought for myself. Didn't go over well? Honestly? I would tell the skid to stfu and mind her own business.

Gimlet's picture

She hates the idea of masks altogether (thanks to BM)

Did you expect any better from an anti-vaxxer?  Does your boyfriend require her to wear them when she is with him?  Why are you exposing yourself like this to be around such a petulant brat?

Just like last time I was there and showed her a dress I was thinking of buying for myself and when I went to check the size, she said "I'm an extra small, so make sure you get that". 

I sincerely hope you laughed in her face.  Although, all things considered, I suppose I wouldn't want to be anywhere near her face.

 

Merrigan's picture

I've tried to say that my designer shoes are my business. And I've tried to tell them that women can work hard enough to be able to buy that kind of stuff. SD16 still thinks that daddy should give it to her. She didn't know what Louboutins were until I'd saved up enough to buy a pair.  

shellpell's picture

Op, not to be rude but you are part of the problem by talking about designer clothes/shoes to her. If you don't engage with her, there's nothing she can say or take back to mommy.  Why are you even putting yourself in the position of having to defend purchases? That's absurd. Also, from past blog posts it seems like your SO has put you in the SDs buddy role which you have taken up without objection. I don't show SS any of my things or my kids' things. I don't engage so whatever he takes back to BM is utterly boring like the kind of cereal we have in the house.

Merrigan's picture

Not rude at all. You're right - I shouldn't try to engage with her when material things are involved.  I can't help her learn about the value of money and working hard if I brag about purchases.