Incoming rant before the holidays begin.
SD16 was up my butt the last time I was over at BF's place. She just follows me everywhere, insists on sitting next to me all the time, and hugs me constantly. She's even started saying "I guess this makes you uncomfortable" when she goes in for a hug but she does it anyway. I've disengaged with things like private alone time with her where she does my makeup or hair because she was ruining my expensive products and making weird comments about my skin. And now she's asking why I don't let her do it anymore! Saying she thinks she's making me feel awkward! She KNOWS she makes me uncomfortable with all of this but she does it anyway!
I told my BF that I wanted some quiet alone time - she piped up and said "I'm gonna stay and hang out with Merrigan!" Which turned into "sorry I interrupted your quiet time - what do you want to do now?" I was heating up some leftovers and offered her some, which turned into her wanting me to make lunch for her. (I made her do it).
I don't get why a 16 year old girl wants to be all snuggly and huggy and best friends with a fucking 40 year old. Wants to "plan" my wedding (I'm not even engaged) and lost it when I said I'd just elope. She and I both have big birthdays coming up and she's gonna be a disaster. I'm planning a Zoom call with all my family on Xmas day, and she'll be weird about it because she's not interested in meeting my family.
And yes, my BF thinks it's just adorable that she follows me everywhere. I've told him so many times that I'm uncomfortable but it all goes out the window once she's there. She'll say something shitty in front of him and he'll completely deny it. I told him that this teenage girl behaviour is hard for an outsider to put up with, and he acted so surprised that I felt that way. Like, screw that. No one in the extended family likes her, she has no friends, and she's bossy and demanding. But she says "oh Merrigan is family to me!" And he eats it up.