BM asking for money again!
So apparently BM called last Tuesday asking if we could help pay the medical bills for SS12 for breaking his fingers...and DH didn't tell me she called. I saw it on the phone bill. It was only a 2 min convo so I asked why she called and why he didn't tell me. He says cause I'll just get mad. Moron. He told her no he couldn't help and if she didn't like the bills she should have kept Tricare prime (no copays or out of pocket costs) and driven to the right doctor instead of switching to tricare standard (closer doctors but its a cost sharing plan). I actually would have been happy with his response, if he would have told me! Are men really that stupid? If I am gonna get mad she called, aren't I gonna be IRATE if she called AND he didn't tell me?? hello!!! I told him he needs to not answer, let her leave a message and we will email with a response! He SAYS he will make sure to do it this way, but we'll see. She's very manipulative, it drives me nuts dealing with her. I don't know how the rest of you do it on a daily, or even weekly, basis 
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I'm sorry! (((HUGS))) I know
I'm sorry! (((HUGS)))
I know you've said that BM is a convicted felon, so I don't understand why she gets away with so much! I hope SS's fingers get better soon!
My thing is, the only reason
My thing is, the only reason she ever calls is cause she wants something, so of course I want to know what it is. I'm glad he responded correctly, but geez...why are guys so brain dead with the "I knew you'd get mad" excuse? I actually WOULDN'T have been mad since he responded correctly. She makes me mad by having the nerve to ask us for anything, but whatever. Ugh! lol
"I child proofed my whole house, but they STILL get in!"
Yeah, I don't think this
Yeah, I don't think this woman should be asking you or your DH for a single thing.........being that the child isn't even his! She should be happy with the fact that he sees him at all, and anything he does for him should be considered sympathy money, sympathy that he has to grow up with her for a mother.
I'm surprised he didn't tell you.......that just doesn't sound like you and him. Men are stupid sometimes though.
He was scared lol Since she
He was scared lol Since she was asking for money he knew I'd freak out. As soon as he told me she asked if we could help her out with the medical bills, my response was "uh, we do help, we cover him under our insurance!"...she has a lot of nerve, I'll give her that.
"I child proofed my whole house, but they STILL get in!"
Trust me, I'd be very
Trust me, I'd be very irritated with both her and DH too! Her for having the nerve to ask for this, and DH for not saying anything! I think it's safe to say that all of the BMs we blog about have a lot of nerve
Right?! I'm betting that her
Right?! I'm betting that her logic is because we are paying $100 less in cs than we were last year...my logic is be happy you get anything! Also,if you dont like the unpaid medical costs, switch back to the prime plan and drive to the right doctor. But no, she switched to the cost sharing plan because the doctors that accept it are in her town. Fine, her choice, but her bill!
"I child proofed my whole house, but they STILL get in!"
You know, my BF does this
You know, my BF does this sometimes. Yeah it irritates me, but what I need to remember is that if my reaction towards him was different, he might be willing to tell me more. Even though what BM has done is what has upset me, BF gets the pleasure of hearing me fuss about it, and it's really not fair to him.
Your DH probably felt like he had handled it in a manner that you would have also agreed with, so there was no need in letting you know something that was already taken care of and wasn't going to do anything but get you upset.
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Yes, except he KNOWS that I
Yes, except he KNOWS that I will know she called because I will see it on the phone bill, so he might as well tell me upfront. I dont fuss to him about her calling unless he handles something incorrectly, without consulting me (which he rarely does, therefore he rarely gets fussed at). I don't get mad everytime she calls, I get mad if she calls and he makes a bad decision. Yeah, her nerve to ask for things pisses me off, but I don't fuss about it to my DH, I vent about it here
But he says even though I don't take it out on him, he knows inside that just hearing her name pisses me off. I get that, but I still have to go back to the point that I am going to see her # on the phone bill, so I'd rather know upfront instead of having to ask him. I'm sure its petty to some, but after all the manipulation she has done, I like to keep tabs on her so she cannot have any further influence on my family.
"I child proofed my whole house, but they STILL get in!"