I feel ike I have found a place that I am welcome. I have been lurking and reading posts for a few days. I used to be able to vent to my friends, who got me through 2 divorces. One marriage lasted 15 years, but not through his "text book" midlife crisis and the other was MY test book "rebound" to an alcoholic. I talked endlessly to my friends. I am AFRAID to vent to them now, and witness the pathetic roll of eyes and "here we go again" sighs. So, then I was miserably single for almost 3 years, which all of my friends thought would be bliss. It wasn't. And, I very happily met Mr. Almost Wonderful and we married on May 1st. I have no worries about him and he is "the one" that I should have met so long ago. It is jsut the OTHERS in his life.

He has BS18 from hell that just turned 18 and changed his name to honor the bm's father, a lifeling alcholic and pervert. I have never laid eyes on this son, and if I did, it would be to slap his smug face. Son has never worked a day in his life, but can lash out vicously at his father. Ahh.... but that should change very, very soon... Court date is coming up.

He has BD12 that is basically a very good kid, but deals with very typical PAS from bm. SHe runs hot and cold, somewhere between being a happy 12 year old and a 19 year old 'crack ho' from hell.

Now, bm is a peice of work. What can I say about someone that has never worked and threw a husband out for no good reason on Father's Day only 3 months short of their 20th anniversay. I could talk for hours and hours.

I am not naive and I KNOW there are two sides to eery story. However, I can also say that a man doesn't change overnight. This man treates me with respect and kindness and love that I only dreamed about in my other marriages. That doesn't happen overnight.

So, what is up right now? We just got served with papers demanding that he pay CS through the court system because the last payment was 6 DAYS LATE. And, guess what? It wasn't because we have it automatically paid from the bank. The real problem. The BYTCH was out of town, on vacation and didnt get the bank draft.

here we go back to court.... here we go!

Medusa.....