I do not like my stepdaughter
Ok i need to get this off of my chest, i do not like my girlfriends daughter almost at all, my gf and i have been together for almost 10 months, and were talking serveral months before getting together, we have also know each other since we were teenagers, we are in are mid 20's now. She is the love of my life and i want to spend the rest of my life with her. I have a beautiful 7 year old daughter who is also the love of my life and is my number one priority and she respects that without any issue. Now when i first met her daughter she was so cute and adorable and funny ect ect. She still is cute and funny, but now she is bad, she is only 3 years old and yet i feel like she is the boss of my gf, my SD is always loud and non stop talking, she is never for one minute quite she is always all over you and gives you no space, she has a very hard time listening to anyone, she has gotten better with her mother but i still cannot stand it, for her to listen the mother has to say it several times, when she doesnt get her way she crys, fake crys, she always wants all of the attention from everyone around her, if my daughter says something she will start to talk and get the attention off of my daughter and towards her, she does not like to share with my daughter, if my daughter has somwthing in her hands she wants it and crys when we tell her no, even tho my daughter is willing to share and gives her something similar so they can both enjoy, but she wont accept it, she has to have what my daughter has. She is VERY annoying, even when i call her mother on the phone all you hear is her in the background and her mother is constantly telling me to hold on so she can answer w.e questions the daughter has, making me not want to call during the day when i know the child is awake, she gives me no space ever, when i see her she is on my ass, i cant sit or walk without her bring curious to what i am doing putting her to sleep is a misson for her mother every single night she doesnt not stop talking long enough to fall asleep. She shows no respect towards adults at all, when i tell her something she laughs at me, i have to tell her im going to take my daughter home for her to listen to me. She purposely reapeats everything i say to annoy me, she also treats me like i am a kid and tells me what i cant and can do, she does this with no one else just me, it makes me feel like she doesnt see me as an adult and i do not like my daughter to see these things because my daughter does respect me and listens to everything i say the first time i say it, mind you my daughter is older but still. Everywhere we go it is not enjoyable because we constantly have to be carefull of what she is doing and telling her to stop(for example) shouting in public, standing at the table at resturants, playing with glass cups salt and pepper shakers, bothering the people behind us, staring at them, getting very close to them, wanting to run around anything to not stay still. She has smacked me in the face before infront of my daughter, when i yelled at her she laughed and thought it was a game. I went almost three months without seeing her and not going over my gf house because of these things, i also dont like her playing with my daughter anymore because of the sharing and the pushing and shoving to get toys away from my daughter who btw is a calm and polite child, she doesnt shove back she gets up and tells me everything. Recently i have started to go over again even with my daughter and i have to admit she is a little better, i guess her mother has been trying hard to change her behavior. But still i cant stand her, she still does not listen, still crys for anything and still will not share with my daughter. She hasent hit me since the last time she did, but she still does not respect me, she still tells me what i can and cant do, for example, david dont say that, david dont touch my mom, david dont look at me, david dont look at my mom ect ect. When i get loud with her to show her how serious i am she pouts and says no and wont move till her mom says something. When we ask why she did whatever bad thing she is doing she never has a real answer, she always says because she wanted to even when we have told her a million times she cannot, I want to live with my gf so bad because we barely spend time together because i work and she is always with her daughter because the father is a deadbeat so its hard. But i am scared of living with the kid and my life being run by her. I want peace. Im scared of not ever having any space again if i move in with them, scared my life will be fillied with annoyance 24/7, i wish i knew why she is the way she is and how to change it, even if its just a little bit, i dont want her to grow up and be the annoying girl that no one likes and is tired of hearing or the obnoxious girl who is constantly seeking attention from people. Maybe its me idk, but i have never felt this way about a child before. Hearing her voice over the phone makes me cringe, and even thinking of her gives me anxiety, i ignore my gfs social media post on purpose because i do not want to see the little girls face and ruin my mood. Sounds so messed up i know but i cannot help it, not in a million years did i think i would feel this way about an innocent child but i do im sorry. Please give me any advise you can. Thank you, im sorry it was so long but its not evwn half of the crap iv been thru with the child.