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SD is definitely Narcisistic and has the Oedipal complex

mean stepmom's picture

Oedipal Complex
From N.S. Gill,

Definition: Described in Interpretation of Dreams, the Oedipal Complex is a term invented by psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud who explained present day neuroses partially on the basis of wish fulfillment. The Oedipal Complex is based on Freud's observation that children often seem to have fallen in love with one parent and developed a hatred for the other. Freud believed this tendency exists in all children but was more marked in neurotics. Freud believed the Oedipus myth bears witness to the prevalence of this Oedipal Complex, both in that it was a popular topic for Greek tragedy and the fact that modern audiences still relate to the story of Oedipus (who murdered his father Laius and then married his mother Jocasta).

Narcisistic Personality Disorder Test

DSM-IV Diagnostic Criteria

A pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), need for admiration, and lack of empathy. The disorder begins by early adulthood and is indicated by at least five of the following:

An exaggerated sense of self-importance

Preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love

Believes he is “special” and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions).

Requires excessive admiration

Has a sense of entitlement.

Takes advantage of others to achieve

Lacks empathy

The patient is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him.

Shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or narcisistic

Clinical Features

Patients with Narcisistic Personality Disorder exaggerate their achievements and talents, and are surprised when they do not receive the recognition they expect.

Their inflated self-evaluation implies a thinly veiled devaluation of others and their accomplishments.

Narcisistic patients only pursue relationships that they perceive will benefit them in some way.

Interpersonally, they are very entitled, expecting others to meet their needs immediately and can become quite indignant if this does not happen.

These patients are self-absorbed and unable to respond to the needs of others.

Any perception of criticism is poorly tolerated

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jaded's picture

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Harleygal's picture

Sorry I couldn't resist. A while back, I was researching the Oedipus Complex and it's relationship to OCD when I accidently ran across the Electra Complex as well.

Einstein's definition of insanity is "doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results."

Oh Canada's picture

you're right! I remember that from PSY 101

laurels4u's picture

Only he doesn't meet just five of the DSM-IV criteria, he meets them all. And he has Oedipal Complex - completely in love with BM and detests my DH.

mean stepmom's picture

we were taught to respect our elders and sure I got into trouble but I made darn sure my parents didn't find out and I didn't do anything that could come back on me. SD doesn't have to worry about consequences when she has 3 adult enablers to cover for her and tell her she hung the moon.

Most Evil's picture

I did study psychology and I love how they define all this . . . incidentally this criteria is the exact way a psychiatrist would diagnose a patient, if you could catch a narcissist in their office!

"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin

Mrs Katch 22's picture

didn't know there were so many details.
All I remembered was that the Oedipus complex were guys that fell for women just like their mothers and the Electra complex was the same but women would fall in love with men like their fathers...thanks for sharing!

Anonymous1M's picture

I have the same problem with my FH's BD8. When she first met me, she said she wanted to kill me. She's is ALWAYS wrapping herself around her Dad and is too grown for words (her male barbie dolls have the women barbies sitting on their lap - all naked). She always wakes in the middle of the night talking about being scared so her Dad can come sleep with her. What does she do when she is not visiting her father? Whenever he has them, if I am not around, she has secured her spot cuddled on her daddy's shoulder (wait! I thought that was my spot - the spot for his lover, not his daughter), and if I'm out of town, it annoys me that she will sleep in the bed with him. Her dad thinks it's cute now, but I envision her growing into a little slut, who can't ever be without a boyfriend(s)

Anyhoo, I am glad to read I am not the only one dealing with a tattle-telling, little grown up girl (who is not my own child).