SD's first day of PreSchool
SD's first day of PreSchool was great. I started off irritated, cause BM had told FDH that she wanted SD the morning of, to get her ready and blah. So I was a little upset about that, but got over it quickly. I was mainly upset because we talked to herthe day before and she agreed to meeting us at the Church the preschool was at, but of course things change with BM faster than I can change a dirty diaper.
So FDH and I went to SD's first day, I mainly went to get a picture of her very first day of school for the scrapbook I'm making for her. This was the very first time (other than drop offs or pickups) I've actually had to be around BM.
I stepped back to let BM and FDH do the major things with SD.
But it was really weird, BM seemed not only unintrested in SD, but with her BioSon too. DD2 and I walked next to FDH, SD started off by BM, but as we were walking towards the doorwaySD came and held my had through the parking lot, i saw BM look back at us, so I asked SD if she wanted to hold her mom's hand. She said no, and that she wanted to hold my hand. So I let her, I did try, I wasn't going to push it.
We get to the front of the church, I have SD stand in front of the doorway for her picture, I snap a picture really quick, then BM gets huffy, jumps in front of me (thank God I already got the picture, and takes a half ass picture because SD looses interest and just wants to go in for school, and get super irritated and short with SD about holding still. I didn't want to say anything to SD cause I got what I had went for. Should I have tried to help?
We walk down the steps, BMtakes tthe lead, but let's her 18mo son walk down the steps alone, leaving him and SD in the dust. Again she just seems super uninterested in her kids. I didn't want to grab her sons hand too, cause I know that she was sore about me holding SD's hand, and I had DD on my other hand.
We get to the bottom of the steps BM is waiting at the classroom door, we say hi to the teacher, and see SD off.
I go to pick SD up from preschool and formally introduce myself to her teacher as SD SM. They show us where their mailboxes are, each mailbox has the child's name and a picture, each child had to 'decorate' their name tag, and the pictures are so they can recognize which mail box is theirs. I felt bad for SD, her name tag had scribbles with pincel and no picture. I know the picture was important cause it was one of the first things FDH talked about after orientation. But BM had to 'decorate' (if that's what she calls it) it SD.
I told FDH that next Thursday (when I drop her off) if she doesn't have her picture I will be bringing one to put on her mail box (BM takes her on The days)
I guess I'm just in awe at how little BM did for SD. And at how unattached she is with her own children... It bothered me so that I brought it up with FDH when we talked about it last night. And he said that he thinks that BM just resents her kids because her BF cares more about the kids than her. And I can see it I guess, BM had SD call her before bed last night to talk to her about her first day. I was not present, just the sound of her voice puts me in a bad mood. FDH said that BM just asked yes and no questions then passed the phone to Boyfriend, who,aaccording to FDH was more warm with his questions, and gave questions that needed detailed answers. So maybe FDH is right.
I just found her actions and her coldness towards the kids very odd.