Here I am leaving the man I love because of his kids
So here I am, I just moved 350 miles to be with the man that I love. 4 1/2 months ago, after being together long distance for almost 2 1/2 years. His girls and I, ages 12 and 16 used to get along fantastically. Until I moved north and we got a bigger, nicer house. Then the sociopathic ex wife decided she didn't like that fact that her girls wanted to spend most of their time over here. And that's when the brainwashing begun. She got to the girls. The elder was convinced that I was bad for her, and her father didn't trust her, yards yadda yadda. Now she's not speaking to her father, and came by a couple of weeks ago and took everything , and I do mean everything to her mothers house. Things that were given to her by him, or us. And made a huge issue out of the entire thing, including physically beating on both her sister and her father when he stepped in to stop her. ( mind you, the family definitely has their own set of dysfunctional dynamics and the younger daughter has serious and clinical emotional issues. But still).
Then all of a sudden, the younger daughter, who is very much her own person, decided that I was "trying to be her mother" ( huh?... Nope) and now she "hates" me. This has been going on for several weeks and she is openly hostile to me in my own home. Her father has tried , he's talked to her, and she's in counseling, etc. but nothing.
My relationship to by bf wasn't perfect. If I said it was I would be lying. But it was more good than bad. And we wanted this to work. Had it just been he and I, I think it would have. But it started wearing on me. The hostility, the rudeness, it was too much. I had already moved to an area where I had no one but them, and I'm feeling isolated to begin with.
So I'm packing, and getting ready to go.
Am I doing the right thing? I love this man. I know I'm doing the right thing. It just sucks beyond the telling of it