He can't understand why I can't be part of this "functioning dysfunctional family" as his ex so smugly put it the last time I stepped foot into her house. We've been together 5 years and married for 2 and things haven't changed. He can't understand why can't I embrace his ex and doesn't stick up for me at all. The times I've been around her, she made snide remarks, took him aside to have a private conversation, they reminisced about the past in front of me. He wants to blame my sensitivity on my depression. My depression has gotten worse I feel because of this unhealthy family dynamic.