How do I handle - BM texted DH about status of our marriage!!!
A bit of background:
Bm1 is very high conflict. She has a golden uterus complext that for the past 12 ys has been fueled by DMIL with money and gifts. Cs for SS12 has always been spent on booze for BM. IMO she has neglected, pasd and isolated SS12 his whole life.( plenty of other posts). She has told ss she wants to keep him a baby forever and has discouraged healthy growing behaviors manipulatively.
Last weekend we had Ss12 overnight Sunday for a substitue day( we switched with BM). While having him DH and I had a heated argument in a different room( SS12 is very curious/ nosy and tried to come in twice during the 15 min the argument lasted-he always does this and gets sent to his room or something). Nothing major or concerning ss or bm.
So after DH drops SS off BM texts him about SS outfit being dirty( was same outfit in same condition she sent him in at the beginning of the weekend- he wore different clothes thru weekend). Dh ignores her.
She then texts that SS12 thinks that DH and I are getting divorced.umm...ok? Nothing about divorce was said anywhere at all.
I asked DH not to respond. Furthermore I asked him to not explain to SS12 anything. I told DH that if SS is nosy again he will have consequences. ( he has lied before about pretty big things about his dad to get out of getting yelled at). If he lies again there will be consequences.
I do have to say that it must be difficult to live in BMs house and I have a hunch she might interrogate him about our house in order to pas my dh. Also I do not believe adult things should be discussed around skids( even calmly) so DH and I go to a different room to talk if such things arise during skid stays.
What do you guys think? How should I handle this? What should the consequences be? Should I go easy or hard on his punka**?