The storm is brewing
My hubby is off on storm work, he helps turn on electricity to those that lost it during hurricanes and such. This is when his ex/baby mama goes especially crazy. According to the court order, she needs to let us know 30 days ahead of time, when she wants to have 14 SD, I understand that this doesn’t always happen and I often go out of my way, cancelling plans, with only days notice. However, with kids in soccer M-T and working weekends, it makes it difficult with only days notice. I explained this to SD14 and she understood.... initially. It wasn’t until I explained it to ex, that it blew up. She texted SD and stated that it’s all my fault. I told ex that if she could drive both back and forth, with this short notice, I would make sure SD was ready and available. That however, did not suffice. She then texted SD that it was my fault. It wasn’t until ex/baby mama texted that SD got upset. She has been hollering at me all day about irrelevant things.
I know she gets mad at me because I am her safety. Her mom had been in and out of her life since birth and I have been IN it for 9 1/2 years, steady and going.
How do you deal with it though? I have stopped protecting ex, however I won’t throw her under the bus. There are some things SD doesn’t need to be aware of, yet her mom brings her into it, stating it’s her choice and it’s my fault if I don’t do what she says. What do you do? How do you make it so she is easy to deal with? Frustrated and feeling alone with out the hubby here, he works 16 hour days while doing this and it’s hard dealing with it all on my own.