So we have portraits planned for first time professionally. (Love groupon) We are inviting my SD despite not being responded to for 2 months now. She mite come. But I’ve politely and gently explained her dad will be doing the driving to get her and she can find a ride home before coming. And that her dad will be doing her hair treatment this time. I’ve done it so much and her hairs so thick curly and long. He’s never done one in the 12 years I’ve known them. (Head lice constantly) If her mom or her responds with demands of changes in the plans we’ll just ignore it. Or say that’s fine she doesn’t have to come. Either way I’m happy. Disengaging doesn’t mean being cold or uninviting it just means boundaries and protecting your own mental and physical health. At least for me that’s how I’m doing it. Working well!