Since nobody knows who I am here I'll post here. My mom was diagnosed with AIDS couple years ago. I don't keep secrets but wanted to keep that from SD as it's a subject that's a bit personal and her mom and my MIL knowing could be painful for my family and me specifically. We'll she ended up finding out and it hasn't been anything said to me directly on it anyways. I guess they're not that low down anyways. SD doesn't keep secrets well and I'm sure she's told her mom and others. We'll that brings me to some information I found today. Allegedly my dad raped a woman when he was a teen. And I have a much older brother who none of us knew about. On top of my other older half brother that I've met only once. My dad was largely uninvolved in his life. My dads been dead 22 years now and no way to confirm wether it was truly rape or consensual. Given the woman's record with men idk. And I didn't know my dad very well. Nobody's sure yet what to believe. My new found brother is very angry with his mom for the lies over the years he's heard and list of possible dads he had and they're all fighting. The step dad always berated him for who he thought was his dad growing up but turns out it was not that man. It was my dad. My dna on ancestry matched with my nephew and we spent months trying to figure it out as it said we were cousins. And I'm sitting here thinking of the few things I know of my dad and all the wonderful things people have told me about him. Which upon telling his older cousin the news she responded with he was a very spoiled child given he was the youngest and his little sister and mother died when he was a child. My mom was toxic. And my dad had his issues. I feel confused and disappointed. Wish I could ask him his side of the story. Maybe he did do it. Idk. Idk her and I barely knew him. I don't want to downplay her experience if he did and I'd never say any of this to any of her family. But I don't want to bad mouth my dad especially if it's not true. He died right after my 8th birthday. I didn't know him that well to be able to say if I think he'd have done such a thing. I'll probably delete this post after awhile. Just wanted to vent the situation. Hopefully we can all meet and become family. My nephew did a good thing figuring it out and getting to the bottom of it. But he's only 20 and that's a lot to do. I just don't know exactly how much to reach out now. It's nice to have a bigger family. Even if it is a very ugly way it came about. Anyone else have crazy stories surface from ancestry research?