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7 months now with no step daughter visit

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I have reached out. Let kids draw picture and write her letters twice. No response to me or them. Gifts letters and such in mail even. No reply. Husband and I text happy birthday and we loved her. She said thanks love you too to him no reply to me. I’m glad it’s less drama and no headlice but even my husband has said he doesn’t really have a bond with her like I do so he doesn’t have much to miss when I mention missing her. First couple months were a stress relief but now it just sucks. I hate the drama and the alienation and the lies she’s always hearing about me especially.

Mrsa update

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It’s not even Mrsa. The infectious disease doctors said it’s normal numbers. So I’m waiting for a mammogram and then once that ugly c word is ruled out (praying) an endocrinologist. Which I’ve suspected Cushing for awhile so praying it’s that and I’m healed soon. And I’m missing my step daughter and feeling sad. Husband said no more reaching out and to just save everything we’d like to give her in a box or something for when she’s 18 but I’m scared she won’t come around as an adult because of her mom. Do you guys have any experiences with alienated yet spoiled kids coming around?

Mrsa

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So this isn’t really step related BUT I’ve had MRSA since March. Inside my breast. I have chronic health issues that make things more complicated. I’m likely being hospitalized for IV vancomycin Wednesday when I see the specialist. I’m terrified of hospitals. I wish things with step family was better and so many issues. I am a Christian and have been feeling distant from God. My choice. I just haven’t been prioritizing for a year now. I been out of church and out of studying properly and just really lazy and all around not who I want to be.

SD friend is scared of her

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My friends daughter whose been friends with step daughter since she was five doesn’t want to see her the next time she comes to visit. She asked if she can spend a weekend soon as we’ve moved away and havent seen her since SD blow up. Which she witnessed. SD has been so mean to everyone it just sucks for us all. And still no response on coming for portraits so oh well I guess. 

Family portraits

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So we have portraits planned for first time professionally. (Love groupon) We are inviting my SD despite not being responded to for 2 months now. She mite come. But I’ve politely and gently explained her dad will be doing the driving to get her and she can find a ride home before coming. And that her dad will be doing her hair treatment this time. I’ve done it so much and her hairs so thick curly and long. He’s never done one in the 12 years I’ve known them. (Head lice constantly)  If her mom or her responds with demands of changes in the plans we’ll just ignore it.

Dream of step daughter

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So I been praying on the situation and thinking on it with SD for past few weeks. I read in Bible study to just chill out and stop pushing and let her come to us. Well last nite I dreamed my step daughter and her best friend was in my birth daughters room and I was trying to fill a refrigerator in there  with healthy food options that I’d spent a lot of money and thought into buying and trying to fit it in the fridge. I couldn’t though because a huge television set was inside it and there was no room.

Advice welcome

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Ok so. My first post, signed up 5 months ago and haven’t posted yet. I love my step daughter. Like genuinely always have. I have issues with many of her behaviors but my friends say I tolerate too much. But my mil and SD mother says I’m horrible and tries so hard to make her hate me. She hasn’t spoken to me in over a month now because of the issues between homes are stressing her so much. We usually talk alot for the last two years after having two years apart from major drama.