My heart hurts for SS
So BM got out of rehab on the 6th. Surprise surprise. I was secretly hoping she would stay and get her life straightened out for her kids. But that's neither here nor there.
My heart seriously hurts for SS. He deserves a mother that is strong and doesn't fall into drugs all the time. He deserves someone who isn't going to break promises and will be steadfast in his life.
The last week or so I am almost positive he has been calling me Momma. I think he hears the other kids call me that so he has been picking it up. I don't discourage it nor do I encourage it. He will call me what he calls me. But it makes me sad that his mother is so selfish.
Why do these BMs just fall off the track so easily. It's like if she doesn't have a man in her life, she can not function. We found out she received SS ssi and it's gone. I don't think she realizes that she could get into big trouble to that but that's on her.
I know this is all jumbled but I just needed to clear my head a little.
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It sounds like he has someone
It sounds like he has someone who isn't going to break promises and will be steadfast in his life....you! He's a lucky kid for that. On behalf of decent human beings everywhere, thank you!
Thank you, you are very kind.
Thank you, you are very kind. I am far from perfect and I am so completely stressed right now with 4 kids but I am trying. That's all I believe I can do right now.
It's hearbreaking and the
It's hearbreaking and the others are right, addicts just don't think like they did before the addiction took hold. My son has a friend whose mother is a junkie now. She was an awesome mom and then divorce and hooked up with a herione junkie and she lost her house, her job, her kids. They don't even know where the mom is anymore. The kids live with grandma now because dad is too busy with his new flavor of the month. It is a disgusting life that these parents chose. Thank goodness that your SS has his dad and you!!
I think those of us who are
I think those of us who are loving and caring mothers and humans will never be able to comprehend how or why a mother can so easily abandon her children. How a mother can put drugs/men/themselves before their children. BM1 had no problems collecting CS for SD for 14 years, but when she moved in with us from 14-16, guess who never paid DH a dime?? Why? I could never figure this out! Guess who never paid for a prom dress or a year book a friggin happy meal? Guess who never came to even ONE of SD volleyball or basketball games? Why? Guess who blew at LEAST $75,000.00 in comp settlements and SSDI (that was supposed to be for SD) and has nothing to show for it??? No car, no house.. nothing! Yeah, I dont get at all. I don't know how you live with yourself, knowing that you not only abandonded your child, but stole from them as well? I think they manage to justify it though somehow in their tiny little pea sized brains.