Updates, it's kinda long.
It’s been awhile since I wrote an update, regaled you all with either funny or horror stories, or even just vented about a recent occurrence or life in general. So I will attempt to roll them all together here in no particular timeline but will do my best to give each at least a heading lol
We are officially moved, we don’t have the majority of things unpacked, not sure where certain items are but everyone has a bed to sleep in, clothes to wear and the basic necessities for day to day life. The majority of unpacked boxes are in two sheds out back, we get home too late to really get into anything during the week and so far every weekend has been basically a bust since the move, it will get done eventually.
Our former landlord had given us until Dec. 1st to vacate the old house, on Nov. 30th DW took SD20 to get the rest of her things from there. Now SD20 had almost 2 months to get her things out, she hadn’t been staying with us for almost 3 months due to our “rules”, has no job, no means of transportation, and no responsibility but still didn’t have the majority of things taken care of, that which she had done was with help from DW. On the same day we had a cleaning person that was going there to make it more presentable and we had run into an issues with her gaining entry to the house which was supposed to have been unlocked, the landlord showed while she was there and let her in and apparently the house looked trashed and trashy. Fast forward to later that afternoon and DW now can’t get in the house, the landlord had CHANGED THE LOCKS, I call him and sternly tell him that my wife is there attempting to finish removing things from the house, he admits to changing the locks and says he will go over and let her in.
SD20’s things are scattered around, stuff broken, some even missing all together. Now personally I could care less about SD20’s things but it was the principal of the thing, we had till the 1st and he changed the locks on the day before. If we had the time and money I would have taken him to court and won in this case, but oh well, at least that is behind us.
Both are doing ok, the regular ups and downs of raising small children with skews here and there. GSD is still having some issues with behavior, she gets argumentative a lot, defiant, lies about silly things and acts entitled, all fairly common kid stuff but mix in the life she has already lead and it gets rough. We are working daily to correct these behaviors, some days it works some days not so much. She also can say interesting things, last night she was talking to her mother on the phone and suddenly said, “ Ok Mommy it’s almost bedtime I have to go, bye Mommy” and hung up on her, then she looks at me and says, “ I didn’t want to hear what she had to say anymore.” Lol Very funny, even this kid knows her Mom is full of chit. A couple of days ago we received an X-mas card addressed to the Blunder Family and she proceeds to open it, stops looks at me and says, “well we are all the Blunder Family”, she has a different last name, being sweet, entitled or manipulative I could be sure lol.
GSS is a typical 2y/o boy gets into everything, is a daredevil, defiant, a copycat and mimic (mostly of me) and also sweet and loving. I enjoy just watching him do things even when I know I will have to yell at him in the next instance, the things he does and tries to say are interesting and at times amazing.
He is also quite the source of comedy for me, they have been teaching him and the other kids in his daycare class different parts of the body, arm, elbow, knee, you get it. So to make things interesting I taught him epiglottis, that’s the dangling punching bag thing in the back of your throat in case you were wondering lol So now I can say GSS where’s your epiglottis and he opens his mouth and says “AHHHHHH”, just waiting for the day that daycare mentions this lol.
His favorite song is The Wheels on the Bus, he sings it constantly, a few weeks ago he was singing it at the table after dinner and starting doing it like he was put on slow motion, totally cracked me up so I started doing it along with him, we do it all the time now, fun stuff !
We just got word today that DSS / The State will no longer pay for daycare and now it will be coming out of pocket, yay!!! Another expensive to add to the ever growing list!
Bless her heart, she currently has bronchitis and coughing up a storm, she was sent home from work the other day and stayed home yesterday and did a bunch of work stuff on her laptop to catch up on office duties, she starts her promotion to manager on Monday.
On top of that she keeps doing and enabling her daughters, best thing is when she goes to do something for them she always says “ What I won’t do for my kids”, not such if she is expecting I’m going to suggest her for Sainthood or what but she only says it to me and she knows I think she’s wasting time, money and effort on either of them, I just never reply, just like when she tells me one of the stories of woe that SD20 is going through, she doesn’t often do that with SD26, only every once in a while when she feels she needs to do something nice to make up for all the tough love lol .
Still planning on moving to her Dad’s home state but wavering from time to time, he hasn’t helped this, he will pay for a one way plane ticket but then she couldn’t bring most of her things with her and her doesn’t want to drive all the way down here and back with a U-Haul trailer, plus he doesn’t think she will last any more than 3 or 4 months, which he could be very right. In my opinion it’s his turn to put up with her for a while in every capacity, I’ve done my time and then some. He’s right she probably will flake out and want to come back here, but he isn’t helping by saying that upfront, I need this kid gone! She has no direction, no plan, no desire to do or make anything of herself, she is one of those wants everything for nothing and thinks it will happen if she just keeps not doing anything, it will just fall in her lap. Another entitled, lazy pothead destined to accomplish absolutely nothing.
Still an addict, still not doing a single thing she was told to do to get her kids back, still technically homeless ( she couch surfs until the host figures her out or just tires of her ), still blames everyone and everything for her problems, and still breaks her mother’s heart on a daily basis.
On this coming Monday she has court for her latest drug charges, manufacturing and trafficking and even better ………. It’s a jury trial! So I am unsure if offenses from other counties can be brought up or her history with DSS but I sure am hoping so. I want this kid so badly to be thrown in prison for an extended stay, it would get her out of our lives for a while, plus her mother would actually worry about her less because she would know where she was lol
When I am forced to be in the same place as her I just ignore that she is there, I don’t look her way, and I don’t speak to her and only respond short answers if she speaks to me. I only feel anger towards this kid for all she has done to all of us, DW and I should be enjoying our GKs not raising them and enjoying our time together not spending almost every waking minute on others.
Well it’s end of year at work so the past few weeks I have been busier than a one armed carpenter, I still don’t know why I am so underweight and may have lost more as my ulcer stirred up last week after being dormant for almost 15 years (stress? What stress????) I try to enjoy things but I just seem to be angry all the time, even if I have a brief lull it comes right back, I really need to try meditating or something. I have been totally of track with my Faith, I haven’t been reading the Bible every day, I haven’t been praying like I should, I have allowed a lot of darkness to overtake my mind and I know it’s not helping, it’s been hard. I know that God doesn’t abandon us but it sure has felt like it the last few months to a year. DW and I have discussed looking for a church in our new hometown, I think it’s something we both need, and it’s just not an easy thing to do. I’m not much of an “Organized Religion” type guy, I’m more of a personal relationship guy (if you know what that means), so many politics and personalities at churches can just ruin the reason for being there in the first place, but I digress.
Overall I am keeping my head above water, trying to keep an inventory of myself to improve upon and hoping that the New Year is somewhat better than the past one.