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Rollercoaster of life

Major Blunder's picture

It has been a very busy week since I last was even able to get on the site, work has kept me quite busy and home as well.

DW is doing well with SD26 not being allowed at our home, there have two visits with her outside of the house in neutral places and no complaints from DW, either she is totally onboard or she is keeping her comments to herself.

We also got some unexpected news, our landlord has decided to do something different with the property ( he won’t say what ) and has given us till Dec. 1st to move out, so now we are frantically trying to find somewhere to go that doesn’t upset the children much or ourselves.  We are looking both at buying a home and other rentals.  Moving on short notice sucks big time and GSD8 is having a tough time with it.

The one good thing about it is that SD20 won’t be going with us and I had nothing to do with that decision, DW simply told her that we were moving and she had to find somewhere else to go, so GO DW !!!! 

DW and GSD8 had it out the other night ( GSD has some behavioral issues ) DW told her that if she didn’t like our rules and was going to continue treating us poorly then DW would call DSS and tell them that GSD8 wanted to go to a foster home, that DW was tired of children treating her with no respect and no appreciation!  Again, “ GO DW !!!! “  GSD8 of course completely backed down when the foster family was mentioned, she is getting counseling at school but she just started that so we don’t expect results overnight, like I said that poor kid has a bag full of cats in her head from all she has been through.

I know this is a brief update but that’s it in a nutshell, I’ll try to keep updating our situation as it unfolds but the good news is that DW seems to be on the same page with me again, it took me exploding but if that what it takes from time to time so be it.  Of course with the move the problem of adult skids will be severely reduced, I know they can still cause issues outside of the home but not having them under my roof will be a great improvement.

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justmakingthebest's picture

I feel like God works in mysterious ways. This move got SD20 out of the house! Now you guys can settle in a cozy 3 bd somewhere and just simply not have room for anymore else!

I am so glad to see that DW is backing you up with the things you need to keep your marriage going. I am just so happy for both of you!

StepUltimate's picture

Answer to prayers for your DW and your marriage! So pleased to read this positive update. Apparently your message has gotten THROUGH! 

Thanks for the update!

Siemprematahari's picture

I think you having to move is a blessing in disguise and so glad that you won't be taking the step kid with you. I agree that there can still be issues although they don't reside under the same roof but at least they are not living there and you can work around it with them on the outside. Wishing you many positive vibes.

beebeel's picture

Sounds like everyone could use a fresh start. A new place and a new world order of teamwork could be just what the doctor ordered.

ProbablyAlreadyInsane's picture

Could be amazing! I'm excited for you Major! Also great job to your DW! Sounds like she's learning to stand up to people finally!!!

A fresh place could definitely be a Godsend. No extra people, an untained home, and somewhere where your grands can get a nice start in a safe environment sounds like a blessing. Smile

Good luck finding somewhere new!!!

Major Blunder's picture

I'm in agreement that this is ultimately a positive, getting there will be the struggle as we were not prepared what so ever for a move right now, however we have done it before so I guess here we go again.  Trying to buy a house through a USDA zero down program ( we weren't saving up to buy a house lol), limited selections to keep GSD8 in her school but she will bounce back if she has to change, amazing how many homes only have one bathroom though !!! 

CLove's picture

Keep up with the keeping up, and keep us posted!

So glad that DW is realizing (for her own good as well as yours) that she deserves respect, instead of being treated badly. And that expectation probably came from YOU expecting to be treated well, so you are providing a good example.

Major Blunder's picture

Right now everything sounds good, I just pray it stays that way, she is easily manipulated by her children, but for now she is staying strong, even heard her telling SD26 a few things on the phone yesterday that she hasn't said in a while, so yes I am proud of her for taking this in the right direction, it could have gone much worse.