So today was easter. During the week I spent time looking for things I could make a basket for sd10 with given the covid situation and the fact that I knew her dad would not get her anything or do anything because he'd most likely forget. I found some things online and put together a nice basket for her with a stuffed animal and a bunch of candy, etc. She was sweet at first and said thank you and that she liked it. Then later in the day she's like you made me a basket? I'm like yes I ordered the stuff for you online and she's like Oh! well thank you. I thought it was a weird convo but just ignored it and moved on. She eats a good amount of candy during the day has some sugary drinks, pancakes for breakfast, pizza for lunch, chinese for dinner. A lot of not so great food but hey it's easter right? So she goes to get dessert eats her popsicle then goes dad can I have another one and he says yes. I noticed she's been asking literally everyday for a second popsicle and everyday he says yes. I think this is ridiculous. #1 we are running through them so fast and no one else has a chance to eat any because she is eating two every single day. #2 that is so much sugar and not so good food for a child in one day but hey what's one more right? #3 we can't just go to the store and get more whenever we want due to covid and I know when she finishes the box she is going to complain about how we don't have any dessert and need to go to the store because that's what she does. So I say "guys if we keep eating two popsicles every single day we are going to burn through those really fast" trying to not be too judgy or offend him about how much sugar and crap he has let her have today I say there are other options you have a whole easter basket over there and he looks at me and goes "who cares, she doesn't even like candy anyways she can have another popsicle" LIES! I've seen her eat the same candy I bought for her a number of times and to have him say that knowing I spent so much time on her basket and say it in front of her really made me feel unappreciated and like my opinion doesn't matter. Was I wrong for saying something? I've watched her eat two popsicles night after night and just feel like a 10 year old needs to slow down. Even on the candy and junk the only reason I even brought up her basket was because it was easter otherwise I would've just said I think that's too much. But I didn't want to make him look bad or say anything upsetting in front of her. Anyways it made her feel like she got her way and can have what she wants. And made me feel like he basically just let her know she could go against what I say because me and him can't even agree to be on the same page. We have a baby on the way so this kind of thing pisses me off and makes me a little worried for having to parent with him. In my house Id like to be able to keep a box of popsicle for at least a full week if that's not too much to ask! Shit like this makes me just not want to do anything for anyone anymore because you want to downplay my effort to make a special day for your child because I didn't agree with you letting her have another popsicle.
 

Sorry! Needed to vent.