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When trying to figure out what to get sgs12 for his birthday other than a MA rated videogame, he tells me it is wrong to want things or have goals. I don't know what to do with that.
The torturing, uh tutoring is getting better. He's obstinate, whines, even produced tears and claimed leg pains and a sore throat. He's sitting on a hard kitchen chair reading out loud. Last night he finally came to the conclusion that I won't let him out of doing it and it is better to just suck it up and get through it. I suspect he's pulled the 'I can't do it' whine whine on his ggm and she lets him off.
I may introduce this kid to acting. I know seasoned actors who can't produce tears on demand.
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On the goals thing, are you
On the goals thing, are you sure he hasn't been exposed to a cult? I was raised in a cult that believed all competition was wrong and everything was "materialism."
No, more like GGM is short on
No, more like GGM is short on cash, don't have wants. Bm's a lazy pos, no goals.
So the kid comes here and it's what are your goals/what do you want.
Maybe have him do a
Maybe have him do a goals/dreams board? He's still young enough, most likely, and obviously not too self-aware so it could still work.
Have him go through magazines or print things off the internet with a specific topic. Like, When I Grow Up, or If I Had a $1,000,000. Glue the important bits to a poster board. Then sit down and talk with you. He shares what he's interested in now, why, get some good conversation going.
That'll make it easier for you to help him start translating his interests into goals, and also choose a b'day gift for him
Cool idea. Will try. This
Cool idea. Will try.
This kid is always afraid to try new stuff, whether it be going roller skating, playing d&d with cousin or doing long division of 1000's. He shuts down when confronted with new. It's the damndest thing. So whenever he visits I try to get him to do at least one new thing.
Maybe spin can help with
Maybe spin can help with that. Depending on what his 'issue' is, maybe find a way to let him 'discover' stuff, or already know stuff, or be good at stuff.
Like, do a blindfold taste test of fruit. Guess first based on feel. (Ha, peel the grapes, suggest they're really eyeballs!)
Or after he's done something well (good table manners, tidied up after dinner, whatever) pay him a very detailed compliment, and add that you see that it's a big change and he is really showing xyz (responsibility, attention to detail, something). And that you're proud of him, ofc.
If he's playing something at the park, maybe he can show some younger kid how to do something. Like, he's the awesome expert and can show someone who doesn't know yet... and when he doesn't know, there'll be an expert to help him.
Just give him a new inner dialogue about doing something 'new'.
Ah food...this kid eats only
Ah food...this kid eats only cheesy crap and peanut butter. I kid you not. I have never seen him eat fruit, vegetables or meat other than McD's chicken nuggets and pepperoni. The pepperoni is a relatively new addition. Have tried for years to fight that.
But we only get him once every month or so during the school year and a couple of weeks during summer .
I can out run him any day of the week and I'm almost 50. Totally not right.
Once I get him over his
Once I get him over his initial fear he settles in and has fun. Except where food is concerned. And long division.
Isn't everyone afraid of long
Isn't everyone afraid of long division?
I love maths too. But too
I love maths too. But too many kids are missing the fundamentals, learn the steps rote, but can't actually apply them. Australia has some great maths program's like Count Me In, Too that makes sure kids have the fundamentals. All game based. Also NZ has a similar, way cool website with heaps of info.