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BM teaching SD to steal...

LRP75's picture

WTF else is new? BM is such a POS.

We went up to the grocery store to grab a few items. At the self-check out, I am weighing and punching in the code for the bananas, SD tells me that her moms looks for the cheapest price for any sort of produce - and uses that for everything.

I said, "You mean to tell me that if she were buying these bananas, she would put in a cheaper code so that she wouldn't have to pay the proper price for them?"

SD says, "Well, yeah!" (and she's proud!)

I said, "Um, but that's stealing."

SD, "NO IT'S NOT!"

Me, "Uh, yeah it is. When a store puts a price on a product, we are expected to pay that price. When we scam to pay a lower price, it's the same as stealing."

SD got all upset and stomped away.

DH and I shared a horrified stare.

Sh*t. SD doesn't stand a snowballs chance in hell. She's so much like her mother - she's being groomed to be that way. :O

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LRP75's picture

BM is a piece of shit. Heck yeah this is stealing. SD10 is so far gone, I honestly don't know if there is any help for her. She is so deviant, just like her mother. I will continue to "try" to be a positive influence on her, but I am not going to hold my breath. In addition, whenever her mother pulls some crap like this, I am going to let SD know just exactly how morally wrong it is. F*ck it. MAYBE when SD grows up, she'll hear my voice somewhere/sometime and a difference will have been made. Then again, maybe not. All I do know is that I am not doing SD any favors by not at least giving her some different options.

Eh. Maybe. I probably just feel that way today. Tomorrow... probably not so much and I won't give a crap one way or another.

I desperately want to compose a letter to the judge who granted BM custody of these children (even after confirmed drug/alcohol abuse during pregnancy/during nursing, abandonment, neglect, and abuse) informing him of the myriads of problems that these children have because of his decision.

His famous quote:

"What is a home? A home is where the mother is..."

My famous quote:

"What is hell? Hell is where the shitty/gender biased/asshole family judges go..."

Let the F*cker rot in hell with the knowledge that he destroyed two children's lives because he placed a f*cking vagina on a pedestal.

LRP75's picture

I don't know if I have a chance to do anything with this child. But, I imagine that when the teachable moments present themselves, I will capitalize upon them.

imjustthemaid's picture

Our BM is a thief too. Her exboyfriend owns a tuxedo rental shop. She took SD there one day when she was about 13 and they found an ipod left in one of the jackets. Instead of doing the right thing, she kept it right in front of SD. It is so wrong and SD definitely would have done the same thing. SD stuck up for her mother and said the guy shouldn't have left it in the jacket, now its ours!!
Unbelievable. I explained to her what if that was your ipod that you forgot and now its stolen. I got a blank stare. Its disgusting.
How about calling the guy and returning it to him?? No that would be the RIGHT thing to do and BM and SD are white trash losers!!

Still Have Hope's picture

First year DH and I were married the ILs sent skids $5 each in Valentine cards. BM told SD(5 at the time) it was okay to take SD's(3 at the time)$5 because she wouldn't miss it. What lessons to teach your kid:
1) It is ok to steal.
2) It is ok to take advantage of a younger person.
3) You are not your sister's keeper.
4) Family loyalty means nothing if $$ is involved.

Now at 22 and 20 SDs both live the life BM taught them.

LRP75's picture

Holy crap! Do we have the same skids and BM.

Dude. Last year at Easter, the skids (twins, boy & girl, age 10) went through their younger cousins (3yo) Easter basket and stole all of her money, candy and took all of the toys. Left the girl with practically nothing in her basket. When the 3yo tried to grab back her basket - they pushed her away and took her basket in the other room to do their dirty work.

I imagine that they looked like vultures.

The younger cousin went and told her parents when the skids took her basket into the other room. So they were caught red-handed stealing everything from her.

The skids response? "I thought it was mine."

Both absolutely REFUSED to apologize and REFUSED to accept responsibility for their actions.

It was some of the most disgusting behavior I have ever witnessed.

I think that was the moment my feelings toward the skids really started to change and I decided to disengage.

I mean, WTF kind of person does that and acts that way???

I remember literally feeling like throwing up when I saw the way they looked, each hovered over the 3yo basket, whispering about who gets what, divvying up the money, and shoving candy into their pockets.

F*cking disgusting.

BUT their mother would have been SO proud...

LRP75's picture

He did make them apologize. They didn't mean it though. He even made them write letter of apology to her AND their parents (DH's brother and sister-in-law)... they still denied that they did anything wrong. It was so disgusting to watch.

As a matter of fact, THAT particular incident was the last straw for DH's brother and sister-in-law in regards to being around the twins. They have REFUSED to bring their children around them at all. Not even for holidays.

I don't blame them.

bi's picture

oh man. asses beat. in front of everyone. apology letters. i know i wouldn't have been able to do anything if sd had done something like that, but that is sure as hell what i would have done if bd had ever done something like that. she wasn't raised to believe "if i want it, it's mine", so that's never been an issue. sd on the other hand, will take what she wants and feels perfectly entitled to do so. even gets pissed if the person the item belongs to tells her off about it.