New to stepparenting..annoyed and need help
It sounds like a lot of SM's on these blogs have a lot in common with me. I have been with my boyfriend for 1.5 years and he has 2 kids, 4 and 8 that I was introduced to 9 months ago. At first I thought being a step parent might be a fun experience, then I realized a couple months later that I could not handle most situations with them. I love my sig. other but I do not have feelings for the kids. They are nice, but they have no manners, they're hyper, they are constantly chattering with each other and entertaining each other, and they are loud most of the time. They also want constant attention from their dad and he is always coddling them. They have to sleep together and the 8 year old gets scared when he's left alone in his bed with his 4 year old sister. I heard that their mother still allows them to sleep with her and not in their own beds. The 8 year old can't handle anything on his own, he can't even put in a bowl in the sink or feed himself half of the time,and needs help getting ready for school every morning. I can't get away from them and have to sit away from them most of the time because I know they'll want to play and ask me 5 times. I feel trapped in the house and feel like there's no outlet to escape them. I have severe anxiety and they cause it to get worse and worse. The tension headaches get so bad that my veins pop out of the sides of my head. They have no respect when it comes to an adult other than their parents, they will just talk over you mid-conversation. My boyfriend insists they are good kids. The truth is they are so spoiled by their biological mother. Their mom buys them everything they want. They ask me to buy them toys and candy every time we go out to the store, or ask when we are going to take them to dinner. They think money is unlimited. I work so hard for everything I have and I am not wealthy. I pay for their meals sometimes to be nice, but they expect things to be paid for. I think they will have big problems in the future if their ways aren't changed now. My boyfriend pushes me moving in with him and the kids and I'd have to move an hour away form home and find a new job. I think the children may cost us the relationship and its sad. I need any personal advice/psychological advice out there. Thanks for reading this.