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The 13 yr old is more mature than her DAD!

lovin-life's picture

I really think the 13 yr old is more mature than her father!!!

The kids Dad...just finished blowing them off for his July 1st long weekend..to party with his buddies..as usual.. They are just as happy hanging out with their freinds, too... I've told him in the past..."You've taught them over the last 4 yrs that it's OK to blow-off visits for your social life...dont' come crying to me now to fix your screw-ups!!"

BUT THEN over the weekend..he has the nerve to try to make our daughter feel guilty...by saying I don't spend enough time with you guys...I miss seeing you...blah..blah..like it's somehow HER FAULT!!!

He's the one who blows off every long weekend his visits fall on...he's the one who sporatically shows up to thier sporting events...he's the one who blows them off every "party holiday" New Years..etc.. He's the one who claims (when there is an audience!!!!) that he wants 2 weeknight visits....but then blows-off his regular visit if he shows up a game during the week instead.

HOW DARE HE PLAY HIS STUPID, LITTLE GUILT GAMES ON THESE CHILDREN!!! I have never, never, never stopped the kids from seeing their Dad. As a matter of fact when we first split up I suggested that he try to get a place closer to the kids..SO HE CAN MAINTIAN CLOSE CONTACT WITH THEM. He has friends in our neighborhood ..its an easy commute to work..etc. He looked at me and said "My life is in (subdivision)" Translation...my party buddies..are in (subdivision)!!

WHATEVER!! HIS CHOICE IN LIFE!!!

He's trying to make her feel like crap because she's wants to attend her REP team Provincial Tournament with her teammates...like she has done every year she has played ball!!!

He's saying that she's messing up the camping plans for everyone that weekend..and "you can't play anyway" etc.

It's sooooo important to her ..to be there with her firends..teammates..even though she can't play.. and she is FURIOUS WITH HIM...AGAIN!!!!

I was stuck referee-ing AGAIN!! I caught him lying to me..AGAIN!! She told me..he said "this" he says "I did not say "this"..I said "that" Well I checked on "that" 100% bullshit.. My daughter's right...he says things..pisses her off..then denies he said it.
He'd lie rather than admit the 13 yr old is right! AND MAKE HER OUT TO BE THE LIAR!!!!

Grow up!!!!!!!

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Dawn-Moderator's picture

That is the same kind of crap that biomom pulls. Stepson will say one thing(version) and biomom will say something else(another version). Stepson says biomom is lying. Then we aren't sure who to believe!!

Sad isn't it??!!!

Dawn

lovin-life's picture

I don't want to be one of those parents..who thinks "my kid does nothing wrong"..they all do..they make mistakes..that's how they learn.

They all "play" parents off against each other to a certain degree..that's part of being a kid, a teenager.. I don't want to do an injustice to my kids..by believing every single thing that comes out of their mouths..especially when it's against their father. It gives the kids power over the parents and no good comes from that. We've all read/posted things on this site which shows the misery that can cause...

But I'm like you Dawn... The more of the "x"'s nonsense & lies I see & hear, I can't help beleiving the kids over him.....

She wouldn't go for her Wed evening visit with him last night..
I'm afraid he's going to end up taking me to court for an order for visitation...but it's not me that's interfering with his visits.

Even with an order.....she says..he'll have to physically drag her out...she doesn't want to go with him. She will HATE him forever..if he does!

I sure hope he follows my advice and gets some 3rd party help before he screws it up more than he already has......