SD birthday is coming up...
On another note....
SD10 and DH birthday is the same day. And I'm an excellent gift giver- I listen really well and am good at finding things people will like.
Several weeks ago I tried to have a "come to jesus" talk with DH about how I'm tired of doing everything for the family and not getting a lot of help from him. He hasn't tried to fix anything or try to show me that he cares enough to help. And up until now I've bought all the birthday presents and Christmas presents for SD from "us."
And after a long year of learning that I've taken on more responsibility that I should as a stepmom, I am not buying the presents for SD birthday this year. He has just assumed I would do, hasn't asked me nicely if I could do it because he is always working, nope. Just assumed I would do it and that has been a huge issue for me, and part of the talk we had. It is next Monday, and I guarantee that it wont be until Friday (my next day off) that he will bring it up. My response will be tough shit... I'm done doing everything for him to make him look like an amazing dad. It is his daughter, not mine, so he is more than capable of getting her a birthday present.
And then I am also not buying DH a present for SD to give him. She's got over 100$ cash in her room, meanwhile we are living paycheck to paycheck. Yes she is just a kid, but as her stepmom I shouldn't have to buy the presents anymore. For my daughter, yes I will, but she's got a mom that can do that stuff now. Plus we just dropped 140$ for her to go to outdoor ed with her class, so sorry I don't have a whole lot of extra cash around these days.
I've got SD a couple little things, but if DH waits until Friday or Saturday RIGHT before her birthday to bring it up, well he can go shopping Monday while she's at school then. Although I would find presents at Ross or Marshalls at a discounted price, it's worth him learning a lesson.