So....

SD11 is in 5th grade and we (really me) are trying to teach her to take responsibilities for her studies, such that we are not going to oversee everything.

She seems to think that because we don't nag her to do it, that it's not an issue.

Fortunately, or unfortunately- either way you look at it, DH has NO CLUE what is going on with her school. And she has been reading books over the past two and a half months, and then has a big report project due on one of the books. She finished her last book three weeks ago and I told her to start working on the project, but that DH and I weren't going to remind her. And I haven't and the project is due on FRIDAY! And she's at her mom's Tuesday and Wednesday, so that means she'll "remember" about it on Thursday and have a huge melt down about it.

Hopefully she'll learn a lesson out of this, because I know it is going to be a crap project because she never puts hard work into anything. And I could be the stepmom that I had been for the past three years and nag her to get it done, but I'm not. I have been working on disengaging and I'm just gonna let it be and not say shit.

SD11 needs to learn about school responsibility before she gets to middle school and if she fails, she fails on her own. I will help if she asks, but I sure as hell aren't going to do the whole project or baby step her through it. Better to learn now.

And the evil stepmom in me is grinning about how this is all gonna go down because it is totally expected. If DH knew what was going on, he could ask her about and remind her to work on it, but she's not my kid so it's not m problem.