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LochnessStepMonster's picture

BM asked DH why hasn't he filed his taxes yet. Here is the exact exchange:

BM: hey, any update on taxes?
DH: Hadn't done yet
BM: why are you waiting so long
DH: because I haven't gotten around to it yet
BM: yea but the cut off is april 15 i think and it is so important to me

Girl, sit down on a train track. She liable not to get his taxes until August anyway once i file my injured spouse form. Plus, everything is set up so as to not over pay. I made sure of that this year on my end but I'm not a tax guru So she may or may not get anything.

I was so close to texting her to stay out of my household affairs but I didn't.

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LochnessStepMonster's picture

Flaming, I'm good for deleting dumb ass comments. Take it somewhere else

Monchichi's picture

Hey Lochness, firstly what the what? She's micromanaging your husband? I'm not sure how tax refunds works in your country but here it is not the ex's money ever.

LochnessStepMonster's picture

They have been going back and forth for a while about increasing his child support. It's in a few of my previous blogs. The short of it is that she got a job paying more money and lost the state insurance for SD8. Now that she has to pau for the insurance she wants him to pay more money. He says take him to court. She doesn't want to take him to court she just wants him to put the money in her hand.

The taxes part comes from him being behind on his child support. When I met DH she was taking him to court every six months for child support. He lost his job and was unemployed. Plus they based his order on a job he hadn't had in years. That last time she took him to court they reduced his order. She hasn't taken him to court since.

LochnessStepMonster's picture

You don't have to be in pretty big trouble at all. My state actually has a law/statute where if you owe any debt, a "qualified debt collector" can file with the state and have your taxes with held. And thats just the state. Don't act like this is some moral thing and it's nearly impossible for it to happen. It happens all the time to any person for whatever reason.

Acratopotes's picture

DH should wait till the 15th them lol.... and make sure she gets nothing... when she complains he should simply tell the bitch, I decided not to file this year }:) }:) }:)

have fun with it lol.....

LochnessStepMonster's picture

We plan on filing on the 4th. Lol. It just takes a while to get all the documents you need. DH zby himself would be pretty simple but I have the house and student loans plus old hospital debt.

LochnessStepMonster's picture

Lol. Yes.

LochnessStepMonster's picture

Around $1500 at this point. He's been pretty faithful to paying it down every month.

LochnessStepMonster's picture

How are we playing tit for tat? I don't over pay my taxes and i especially didn't this year so i wouldnt get screwed over. We have seen on this blog where SM's have their returns applied to their husband's debts. I'm not paying his child support and he is not paying my loans.

He is also paying his arrears so where is the tit and where is the tat?

Ninji's picture

It's funny that every time I see a user being this confrontational they have been a member for less than 24hrs.

LochnessStepMonster's picture

I didn't realize they had only been here for a day. I wish we had an auto block for that. Or maybe disable new users for being able to reply for the first 3 days. It would cut down on trolls.

Acratopotes's picture

:jawdrop: she qualifies for it....

you can't claim if not qualifying so I do not see where you get tit for tat... if I recall she was injured and some time off work

LochnessStepMonster's picture

The question here is why do you think it is anyone else's responsibility to pay any one else's debt. I qualify for it because I have a spouse that can have his taxes with held. My husband qualifies for it because he has a spouse that can have her taxes with held (my old hospital debt). Only one person needs to file.

But you can pay it if you want. Would you like to?

LochnessStepMonster's picture

And $1500 isn't a peasly amount of money just to shrug off. If it was then BM wouldn't be asking about his taxes.

Ninji's picture

Not everyone has $1500 to just hand over. Sounds like they have every intention of filing taxes. BM simply needs to take a chill pill.

Acratopotes's picture

@ MONKEYSSKIDS

WTH - that middle letter in your name is making you bitchy and some one is deleting you quickly..

you never used to be like this

WalkOnBy's picture

I have a feeling that monkeysskids is not the same person as monkeyskids??

At least I hope not...

Livingoutloud's picture

Why is he in arrears? Our tax accountant told us that we only need injured spouse form for me if DH is in arrears. If he pays monthly is he supposed to ( he does, and it's spousal support for a lazy BM not even child support) then there is no need for the form.

LochnessStepMonster's picture

He's in arrears for not paying his child support while he was unemployed. I went into more detail in another reply

twoviewpoints's picture

"I was so close to texting her to stay out of my household affairs but I didn't."

I don't find the inquire as out of line. It's not like BM badgered the heck out of him and raved on and on about getting his return. She simply asked. Had Dad not been behind in CS, she'd have no reason to have asked. Doesn't really matter why he's behind, he's behind.

I owe taxes this year. I plan on sending my forms and check postmarked April 18th (this year's due date). Had I been receiving a refund, I very likely would have been a bit more inclined to file much earlier.

I wouldn't let her asking annoy me. Life has enough stress in it without letting a simple inquire add to it. If, as you say, you've arranged to keep more every month than pay and get it back in the end, she isn't getting much , if anything, anyway.

Let it roll off. If her life if dependent on your tax refund, or lack of one, that's her problem. Not yours. The surprise will be on her when she does finally get DH's part of the filing. Picture her face when she's learns it's likely peanuts.

LochnessStepMonster's picture

That's a gorgeous way of painting that picture. I will try to see it that way. I think the reason it annoys me so much is because of all the other stuff she has been "pulling" lately and I feel like she is building her way up to trying to deny him visitation.

Sd8 was failing 2nd grade then all of a sudden she is passing. SD8 was sick so DH couldn't get her on his visitation. It could be true but it just seems to be conveniently be happeneing a lot lately. I know kids get sick but the timing feels off. Or how she wasn't even awake the week beforehand to do the drop off. DH and I sat outside in the car for 45 mins. These behaviors have been increasing since they have been having the argument about paying more in support.

I just find it odd that she was taking him to court so often for child support but when she got paid more she didnt report it and is trying to make the difference off of DH.

It also gets me a little because i was the one that actually got the last message at 0430 this morning. I was using the light on his phone to find my phone and first thing in the morning i see a message about what she thinks is important.

LochnessStepMonster's picture

I honestly agree. I have had it happen to famiky members and I think there should be a grace period or something to malensure that ppl don't fall back in to needing assistance. It would help create more stable futures for people that had assistance and keep them from needing assistance in the future.

But if wishes were fishes we'd all be fishermen. (I think that's how that goes).

DH actually offered to pay half of co pays but he aksed that he be informed of them before it happens like their order says. Her issues is that she doesn't think she has to co parent. She wants to take SD8 to whomever whenever she likes to. It just doesn't work that way. So now his stance is just take him to court for it.

DH can take her to court to get every thing modified just like she can. I think he hasn't done it because honestly, he can do the child support where it is right now and they won't increase it just because she has to pay insurance now. They have always based the ratio of their incomes on both of their gross wages. And the judges here are pro BM so i also think he just would prefer notnto rock the boat unless he absolutely has to. Until he feels like she is he probably won't make a move.

WalkOnBy's picture

"BM: hey, any update on taxes?"

DH - *crickets*

I mean, why even respond? YOUR taxes have literally NOTHING to do with her.

AJanie's picture

It is so intrusive when a BM meddle's in your affairs in that way. That is the type of thing that enrages me.