What to do???
Ok, this is my first time ever on a blog so please be kind..... I just need a little help.. My boyfriend and I have been together almost 10years. He has a 18 and 16 yr old girls and I have a 12yr old boy and 10yr old girl. He has pretty much been their only dad. When we first got together he would do and say things to my kids that I did not necessarily agree with but would let happen to see how it worked. Somethings worked somethings we had to have a disscussion about but for the most part we could agree on how to raise "my" children as ours. Fast forward to about 4 years ago, his ex decided to drop their kids off at our house and move to another country. Basically at the beginning they were just going to stay in the living room until we could move bunk beds and figure somethings out. The girls finally told us they didn't want bunk beds and just kinda took over the living room and dining room area as their rooms. Ideally we would just move out into a bigger home but at this time we are still paying her child support and medical support and trying to pay a lawyer to find her before she left the country. Then come to find out she never had the kids on Medicaid which meant we also got to pay for 2 sets of braces... So basically we are struggling but at least making it... Fast forward 4years... We are having a big home built and should be done in a few months but HERE IS MY PROBLEM... the 18yr old is totally and completely utterly disrespectful....i love her and am committed to helping her gain the most basic needs (a car, a dl, graduating high school) but I just can not deal with how she treats me..... Let me express they are all good kids, her included, she has a job, is working towards passing her driving test and is a good student, she just has a terrible attitude that causes issues with everyone in the house, all of the kids (even her sister) have commented on how she acts and treats them. Her sister told me it's exhausting sometimes and that's how I feel All of the time.. when i try and speak to her father about it, it normally goes 2 ways...he either gets really mad and blows up on her or he tries to compare my mouthy 10yr old to her. Which I do have a mouthy 10yr old but I explain to him i can discipline her ,I can't with your 18 yr old. PLEASE help what should i do????