I have another problem I need advise on.
My DH of 23 years had a disagreement with his mother for a couple yrs did not really speak or visit each other. My MIL is like best friends with my DH kids BM. BM never moved on, never dated, never married and has been pining over DH for 23 years. Drive over 40 miles each way to get her car repaired at my DH shop. Texts him like they are best friends. I found out from sister in laws my MIL is two faced with me and DH kids BM. I have no desire to visit her because you never know when BM is there. One Christmas several yrs ago she MIL invited BM to holiday dinner. I said Merry Christmas and no reply. She threw a baby shower for SS girl and everyone in the family was invited but me. Can't even baptise grandchildren cuz she don;t want me there. No one mind you no one stands up for me against her. 25 yrs of BS!
DH and his mom have made up and he visits every other week. Does not ask me if I want to go. I would go anyway. Now the holidays are coming and I know MIL will host. I do not want to go at all. She has never been part of my son's life only my SS's whose BM lives around the block from her. Mind you the boys are all adults now which brings me to my next problem.
If you read my other blog on Advice needed for SS and SS grandchildren.....do I continue to purchase gifts for SS's step-grandchildren whom I only see twice a year. Mind you they live less than 5 miles from me. (my biological son will get gifts) Note since everyone was little boys I have used my money not my husband to purchase gifts he never contributes.
I would just like your thoughts please.