I have been married for 25 yrs to a man who had 2 small sons. 1 was an infant. We have one sone together. Was an excellent stepmom treated all the same. Never laid one hand on them. Stepsons BM hates me never got over the fact the man chose me not her. She never moved on never remarried or even dated. She texts my DH all kinds of crap. I handled her. Not the point. My oldest SS is going to be 29 and has his own small home he shares with his babies mom (we will call her Jane). 5 yr boy is autistic and a1 yr old daughter. We will call him SS. SS has been sleeping around for yrs with the same woman and Jane is aware. I was close to Jane but not so much due to the fact she would ask my advice and when I spoke my opinion she did not like. Whatever I have moved on and decided whatever happens in their relationship is their business. I haven't seen my step-grandchildren in 6 months. The biological grandmother (husbands ex) has both children every other weekend for the entire weekend.
SS has gotten into so much trouble with the police and to date has had 2 cars seized by police. Lawyers fees out the roof. Lost his license they only have Jane's car who my husband who runs an automotive shop repairs for them. Again all of their business. SS rarely comes to visit us. I never see Jane anymore. Sure we text to wish happy birthday's to each other. Nothing more.
SS came to the house Saturday night and I found out from my younger son that apparently when SS was over the other I may have said something to make SS slightly uncomfortable while hanging with 3 sons and dad and I. I have no idea what it was and no one seems to recall. My DH says the conversation quickly switched My younger son said SS and Jane do not want us at their house because there is no living room furniture and hasn't for some time. They don't want to be judged and I can be too judgemental. Ok yes I admit maybe 1 year ago but since then minded my own business.
My son has been hanging with his brother and I don't even ask him questions about SS it is between his brother and him. What disturbed me is they have no furniture. I have some extra couch/loveseat I would like to give them but don't know how to go about it without insulting them???
I guess what blows my mind is why my DH and SS's mother do not jump in to help this guy out. Why should the grandchildren have no place to sit while watching TV????
I would never let that happen my son let alone my stepson. Is it me or something wrong with this pic??? Please note: this family is nothing like how I was brought up. Rather than discuss as adults everyone sweeps everything under the rug. Everyone is afraid of offending each other.