I have been married for 25 yrs to a man who had 2 small sons. 1 was an infant. We have one sone together. Was an excellent stepmom treated all the same. Never laid one hand on them. Stepsons BM hates me never got over the fact the man chose me not her. She never moved on never remarried or even dated.  She texts my DH all kinds of crap.  I handled her. Not the point. My oldest SS is going to be 29 and has his own small home he shares with his babies mom (we will call her Jane). 5 yr boy is autistic and a1 yr old daughter. We will call him SS.