Ex wife issues and Boyfriend won’t do anything!
Bf and I have been together 6mths. He has 4 kids with ex wife. Before I came in the picture him and ex wife were still doing things together with the kids and still having sex. The first month we were together she was still goin to his house and just making herself at home and they were still doing family things together. It took him almost 2 months to tell her that he had a gf and what my name was bc his past girlfriends she would stalk and even slashed the tires of one of them.
They never had a set schedule with the kids. He is the primary caregiver and pays for everything. Since we have been together we never know if he is gonna have kids or not. She will plan to take them and then won’t. Or she is suppose to have them for a set amount of days and then the kids want to go back to bf earlier so they go back. I can’t count how many times we have made plans when he isn’t suppose to have kids and they get cancelled bc either the ex wants him to take them back early, she doesn’t take them when she says she will or the kids want to go back to him early.
This woman has messaged me telling me that she slept with my boyfriend while I was out of town. My bf ademently denies it and I don’t think he did. However 3 days later the ex is moving to a new place and she needs to get the kids a bed and she gets my boyfriend to go pick it up and move it for her. I threw a fit and said she just tried to break us up and now your helping her. My boyfriends response is that it wasn’t for her but for his kids. She text him a few weeks ago calling me the C word along with a whore because she wanted my boyfriend to take the kids back early and he said no. (He ended up taking them back early anyway)Little things like this happen all the time and he says the same thing. When he has the kids when isn’t suppose to and cancels on me he always says “so what if I want to see my kids more” yesterday she went to his house telling him he needed to take the kids back early or loan her money because she couldn’t afford to feed them because she hasn’t gotten unemployment yet bc of Covid19.
I am at my wits end though. He is a great guy who treats me well otherwise for how he lets his ex treat me and always changing our plans to accommodate her. I go to his house and I do all the things a wife would do, cook, clean, help with sick kids, help with homework and school projects etc. He use to put more effort in seeing me even if he has kids but now it’s me putting in the effort to see him. His life his chaos bc he runs his own construction company and he is trying to raise 4 kids.
My question is.... am I being unreasonable by wanting him to stand up to his ex wife and defend me, stop letting her manipulate him to help her out and to stick to a dang schedule so that we can make plans??!!!