If anyone remembers I posted about having IVF back in November. Well I'm 9.5 weeks pregnant. Yay! This is huge. For heaven's sake I'm 42, and never thought I'd have a baby of my own. I'm very nervous that something will go wrong, and that's why I haven't posted.

At the same time, SO has left the country for an extended period of time. With me pregnant. LOL - I just never do things the normal way, it seems.

He has some things to take care of back home, and suffice to say that we agree this is what we need to do right now. But it's not easy for either of us to be apart. He will probably be gone many months. We are hoping he will be back when the baby is born, but even that isn't certain.

And as if that weren't enough, I just spoke with SO this morning and he told me that SS16 managed to get DYFS called on his ass. Brilliant move, idiot! Apparently he got in a fight at school and got punched in the face, badly enough that the nurse thought he would need a tetanus shot. But the school wasn't aware of the fight, and SS just went home. The next day when he went to school, and went to the nurse, someone at the school reported him as abused to DYFS, assuming the injury happened at home.

Nice move, SS! Way to go! How many times have we said that if you have a problem you need to handle it the correct way, in this case go to the school administration. But no, he knows best what to do, and he figured he'd just say nothing because he's "no snitch!"

Good job, big man! DYFS has been looking for his mother - he has been living with her - and called his father when they couldn't get in touch with her.

The effing stupid ass school never thought of course to call me - given I've been the parent in closest contact with them (despite the fact that he doesn't live here anymore) - to see if I had any information, before calling the authorities. And the nurse never called any parent until the following day.

SO has been on the road from here to his mom's, where he will be staying, for the past few days. BM rang his phone off the hook, and when SO didn't answer, called SO's mother - panicking her and making her think something happened to SO on the road.

What a bunch of assholes! The school, SS, and BM - all of them. As if SO and I don't have enough to deal with right now.

SO says that SS and BM chose each other, and now they will really have to deal with the consequences. BM lives in a studio apartment with her boyfriend and SS. And maybe her boyfriend's kids, or maybe they just visit. I don't know if he actually has a real bed or not.

DYFS is probably going to put him in foster care.

What a total SNAFU.

For me at this point, my number one priority is taking care of myself and keeping my stress down, in order to have the best chance for my baby to be born healthy. That's really all I care about.

I'm just really disappointed. It seemed like SS was turning around a little. And he knows very well how the situation is with me and his father right now - he knows the last thing we need is trouble. I'm so disappointed that in a matter of days, he created such a bad situation.

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