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LittlePanda's picture

..next Monday. I am really going to need patience with this one. BM's mother, grandmother, called to tell my husband and to ask if the 2 of them could pick her up from school that day. He said no, and that she could spend the following weekend at their house. Grandma asked multiple times about it and even implied that she thinks things should go back to 5050. How is that even possible? BM wont be driving, we live in a different school district. SD has been with us since MAY full time..and grandma has been supportive and even nice. Not anymore though. We knew that once her daughter was back that she'd change her views though. What does grandma think is going to happen? If SD goes back to 5050 who will take her to school and pick her up every day?? Shouldn't BM be focusing on getting better and maybe getting a job? Court is on the 18th and I really hope that the judge and GAL will make husband's temporary custody permanent. I just can't see how it would work any other way...! Anyone been in a similar situation?

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stepmama2one's picture

I don't understand why the gma is contacting you about BM seeing her daughter. I guess if BM wanted to see her daughter bad enough she would contact your DH herself. Do you all use the gma as the middle man to lessen the conflict between everyone? I know my SD's mom always has her mom picking and dropping of my SD when she has her. BM never does anything with SD when she is suppose to have her, grandma always has her.

LittlePanda's picture

Oh, for as long as I have known these people it is grandma who does the calling, texting, driving, etc. BM is a piece of crap and Gma is the real parent. I think BM has texted or called MAYBE 10x in the past 4 years! Most of that time my husband has had custody though, so it didn't matter...even when BM had half it was still gma who did all the communicating. I've always told him, "GMA is NOT the parent, why are you talking to her" but that's not really my problem and I never get a good answer.

I have told him that this time around I think it's best, for documentation, that if the mother wants to see the child she is the one who needs to do the communicating.

On the other hand, sd loves her grandma and there is no reason to take her away. shrug. who knows. these people are f*cking idiots.