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BM and Pickup Drama

LilyGirl43's picture

Long time lurker, first time poster. Needed to vent.

I am SM to three kids, 15, 13, and 11. DH and I have been together for 9 years, married for 3. He empowers me to be a parent to his kids and backs me up. The kids are awesome and we treat each other with respect.

Needed to vent about BM. BM and SF live in the country, in a house that's set 150 yards back from the road, a road which does not have a posted speed limit (which means people go as fast as they want). They have lived there for a year and eight months.

When they first moved there, we would drive down their driveway to the house, turn around, and the kids would get in or get out of our car. Then, eight months ago, BM started parking her car at the end of the driveway so we could only pull in sideways, just enough to get off the road. The kids would be transported back and forth to her house in her car from the street. Strange, but not a big deal, except at pickups when a kid forgets something in her house and we have to wait 10 minutes for them to walk back to the house, find the thing, and come back to our car.

Friday: went to pick up the kids. No car at the end of the driveway, but one orange cone, and SKs, BM, and SF standing in the driveway. We pull past it and sideways into the driveway to get out of the road. Kids get in. I back up to turn a bit so I don't drive through their grass and MSS says, "Awesome! You hit the cone!" Totally didn't mean to, but oops. Blum 3

Today: went to pick up the kids (jacked up schedule because of the holiday weekend). No cone, but a camping chair at the end of the driveway occupied by YSS, with SM standing at the edge of the driveway, hands on hips, and other SKs and SF standing a few feet back. We stop the car in the road and put on the flashers. SKs said BM isn't letting us in the driveway because we don't let her in ours. BS (never mind that awesome object lesson of wrong someone else because they wronged you).

Our driveway is wide open during pickups. She chooses to park in the street.  We live in a suburb, 15 minutes from SM, in a neighborhood with posted 25 mph signs, kids and adults in the street all day, and neighbors 50 feet to the left and right, across the street, and out the back door. SM lives on a rural road with the closest neighbor a 1/2 mile away. There's a little hill right before their driveway,  so if someone comes flying down their road and hits our car parked in the street, the people who will be injured will be SKs since they are loading and unloading. DH and I are buckled in with airbags in front of us.

Why, BM, why? What is so bad about giving us enough space to pull in the driveway at pickups?


Areyou's picture

Did you mean Stepmom lives on or BM towards the end of your post?

Either way they are being rude and petty. If they want skid at the end of the driveway so be it.

No skin off your back.

Maybe they are drug dealers. Who kbows. Let them have their two minutes of petty satisfaction.

Kiwigal's picture

Keep running over the cone!  OOPS! *ROFL*

Kiwigal's picture

Keep running over the cone!  OOPS! *ROFL*

ntm's picture

then I would keep driving. DH needs to notify her in a way he has proof she received it, that if the exchange location isn’t safe, it will be moved to the nearest police station. 

CLove's picture

Part of the custody order includes that DH provides all transport to and from school and houses himself. Fortunately or unfortunately she lives about 1/2 mile from us. 

Sounds like you have a very petty BM. Good luck!