So, the SS's stayed with the BM all summer. No telling us what is going on, what they where up to, why etc, etc. Just general rudeness as far as I am concerned. However, we had a fairly stress free summer without them. I am on pins and needles wondering when they are coming back. I know DH has been texting and asking when they are coming home. I really don't want them back.
I know it would be an assh*le thing for me to tell him "DH, didn't you notice how nice things were this summer?"
I also have two bedrooms that smell like death and honestly, I want them cleaned and I would really love to know if they are not coming back, they can take their smelly sh*t out of there. I had the one room as my meditation room before they came and I had to dismantle it.
Here's the thing, they are now 18 and soon to be 20. I honestly don't think they need to have rooms "waiting on them" at our home. My mom didn't.
I really need some good advice. My DH is just like most of yours, he sees nothing wrong with what his kids do. So my asking for them to take the stuff out or make up their minds on where they will live is going to be a hot button topic.