OT - Signing Over Vehicles with XH
My XH and I are still on the titles of each other's vehicles. We bought mine with a very long loan period weeks before I moved out and asked for a divorce. He owed too little on his to refinance when I left, and my credit was shot after the divorce for a bit so I couldn't refinance mine. By the time I could, I owed too little on it for anyone to let me take out a loan that wouldn't double my interest rate.
XH and I mutually agreed to sign over the vehicles to each other when they were paid off. Mine has less than 4 payments left, so we'll be signing over titles soon (and no, I'm not worried about that part).
I want to just meet at a DMV to sign it and get it over with. Five minutes of hassle, and at most XH and I will exchange pleasantries.
Here is my issue/rant/question. His wife won't let him talk to me. She insists on any communication that he and I have go through her. There have been maybe 3 things I have had to contact him about in 5 years, and it was because something got mailed to me that he NEEDED to have (specifically, a ticket) and his wife found old paperwork of mine that she wanted to send me because she "didn't want to look through it" (though she looked through it enough to know what it all was, and if she didn't want to be bothered with it, she could have pitched it or told XH to handle it...but I digress).
If this is anything like the ticket fiasco (I offered to run the ticket to him at the parking lot of his office, but he had to ask her her thoughts, and her thoughts were for me to go home, him to go pick her up, him drive out to my house, and then pick it up), what should take 30 seconds of conversation nd five minutes at the DMV will turn into 30 minutes of concocting some convoluted plan and me waiting a week for each of us to sign the title and mail it back and forth to each other. He and I work 15 minutes from each other, and live 30 minutes from each other. I don't want to mail this crap back and forth, and I don't want to deal with her for an issue that has nothing, absolutely NOTHING, to do with her.
Yes, yes, I know I should have taken care of this long ago. I'm kicking myself now for not. But if you were me in my current state, what would you do? Would you just follow along with her plan just to get it over with, or would you insist on your own plan and tell her to (politely) shove off? This is the LAST thing that ties me to him. We haven't spoken in a year. We aren't friends; this is a business transaction. I'd really like to just get it done and close that chapter fully.